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So i can't find his passport - must still be in his pants pocket, but I did find the actual receipt from the rental car company and made copies quick.
Also looked through his text messages - he was text messaging her on the shuttle on the way home just today!
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This was already mentioned on your other thread, but when you confront, remain calm and strong. If things start to get heated, don't get drawn into an argument, just say... let's talk about this later when we're calm (and then walk away and keep occupied).
Can you give us a summary of what he said in those texts? Anything that he can't deny/try to explain away? Or is it more vague?
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Lot's of crap. But pretty vague in detail.
A lot of "I luv u's"
I found a message from a few days before they went away on "their" weekend where she says how excited she is about the weekend.
One of the "I get closer and closer to you every day."
That sort of junk, but nothing really tangible.
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He sure is taking a long time in the bathroom..............
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Calm and in control.
Turn off the WLAN to get him out.
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Stina,
Those text messages are plenty tangible! The I luv u's, discussion of their trip & getting closer -- no more proof needed, IMO. Can you forward those or somehow make copies? You will want your own set of copies of those emails.
Boy, I can think of some things to say to a WH who talks to an OW while on the pot. However, you are in Plan A, so I don't recommend it.
Can anyone advise her on how to turn off the WLAN?
Stina - deep breaths - calm & focused. In addition to the boards, do you have a friend or relative to call after the confrontation if you need to talk?
Last edited by neverthesame; 05/12/06 08:01 PM.
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Unplug it!
...or, and this might be more fun, because it will take a while to figure it out:
take the filter off the phone, and dial in to voicemail or something. That will disrupt the signal.
-ol' 2long
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Not if she's on a cable modem, 2. But unplugging it will do it - but take her desktop down as well. Unscrew the antennas? The ones on my router come off real easy. I bet we're too late - he may already be wiping. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> WAT
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Bwahaha WAT!!!!!
Well, he must not have left in the middle of the conversation, or we would have heard by now.
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I bet we're too late - he may already be wiping. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
WAT I don't get it..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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