I used to use this forum a lot when I went through my divorce a few years ago. Since then, I have met and fallen in love with an amazing woman. I asked her to marry me in Feb and she said yes. We dreamt of kids, a home, a dog, etc. etc....Oh yeah and moving in together. When I came for a visit a few weeks ago she got "cold feet". She became affraid of losing her independence and the life she has created for herself. Untl then she trusted that I would not take that from her, but her underlying fears have gotten the best of her and I am affraid she is near the end with me. I feel helpless. Any attempt to talk is met with the word "drama"...She hates drama, but seems to be a drama queen these days. She has a history of controlling boyfriends and a father who has not really been there for her. I think they have left her with abandonment and committment issues. She seems to realize this, but does not seem to be able to deal with it in a possitive way. Does anyone have any advice as to how I might be able to work with her on this and find our way back to one another? It is tearing me apart...I thought I had found the real thing this time. (My profile is not acurate anymore...please ignore. I will change it soon)