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sure, that works for me.


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If I am here four years from now, do me a favor: either shoot me or throw me into one of the Idiotville threads. Your pick of which Idiotville. By then, there prolly will be fifty of them.


OMG, that was funny, lil grasshopper <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> '

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Todd,

Another shaky anology.

Caste systems are usually marked by occupational stratification. (A modern example is salary vs. hourly employees in a company.) Where it is difficult to move classes. Further, it (a caste system) is usually propogated through rules and restrictions of marriage. Thus keeping the separation.

If there is a caste system at all, it based on thoughtfulness and merits of post. If you give good, sound, consistent advice in accordance with (mostly) the MB principles, you will become more valued.

If anything, this is a free market where the "currency" is good ideas and sound advice and those in the "upper crust" have bought their way there with good advice.

(Idiotville being an exception, where clout is granted in direct proportion to inanity, but that rarely bleeds to "real" threads where we are trying to help.)

I did not mean to imply that your registration date meant that you weren't wise, only that it appeared you lacked the history that older members have. I have no idea when you started reading.

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Another defense of the 'ville. It is quite rude to threadjack. That is general netiquette. So if I want to post just a general comment that has little to do with MB or helping someone to a friend of mine who is posting on a thread, well, that would be rude to put it on their thread.

And Idiotville is convenient. Don't have to log onto another board, start my e-mail program, etc.

That is as strong an argument for having it as your argument that it pushes meaningful threads off the page 1 position.

Now, you have posted over and over again that nobody is defending Idiotville. Questioning us as to why we can't, and almost implying that it is proof that you are right.

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Everyone keeps making tangential points. The quest of this thread is the elemental question: does IV need multiple threads?

Amid all the consternation over P's time on his hands the question remains unanswered.

Can anyone - anyone - defend the need for a second IV thread?

I have answered with a defense, and posed a question back. What is REALLY wrong with it....

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Yes, master I am grasshopper! There's another topic: the caste system divided amongst the just got here members and the been here a long time members.

If I am here four years from now, do me a favor: either shoot me or throw me into one of the Idiotville threads. Your pick of which Idiotville. By then, there prolly will be fifty of them.

Doing exactly what you were complaining about earlier.

So based on what I have seen so far, I could easily draw the conclusion that you are just here to stir up trouble and call for you to be banned from the board. Seeing as how it is not directly contributing to the recovery of marriages and that there must be a board out there somewhere dedicated to the stirring up of trouble.

But that conclusion would be made a little hastily. As I have not read any of your posts and am not sure if you are contributing to the site as a whole or not.

In the same vein, you have not given Idiotville a try, so why the hasty judgement?

THAT is exactly what we use Idiotville for. Poking fun at one another, witty banter, and the like. Come on over. We don't bite (much, and then, only in a loving way).

Test your "caste system" theory out. Unless you are going to become one of "those" posters who just fires off at flaws and such, in which case you WILL be "demoted in the ranks" in that you will pretty much be ignored.

Which is exactly what you should do if the Idiotville thread and its cousins bothers you.

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all the big words and big ideas are hurting my head


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NCW can't help himself, it's just the way he is wired. Those brains, donchano?

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OK.

I will throw you a bone.

Q: Why do walrus' like seals?

A: Cuz seals blow.

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OK.

I will throw you a bone.

Q: Why do walrus' like seals?

A: Cuz seals blow.




Actually the plural form of walrus, is either just "walrus" (no apostrophe needed) or "walruses"! Sorry NCW, I just couldn't resist! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W <-------A Blonde Always Looking For Some Small Chance to Appear Intelligent <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Sorry NCW, I just couldn't resist! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W <-------A Blonde Always Looking For Some Small Chance to Appear Intelligent <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

'Sok. I learned something.

NCW <--------- A Gray Head Doing a Good Job of Faking It

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I hate to say it, but it looks like Pio has unintentionally started his own little Idiotville suburb...tee hee.


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....and the fact that he did seems to escape him.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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I LOVE MULTIPLE














THREADS!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


The queen, for her part, is the unifying force of the community; if she is removed from the hive, the workers very quickly sense her absence. After a few hours, or even less, they show unmistakable signs of queenlessness. - Man and Insects
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Do YOU? Looks like your name changing tactics and YOUR multiple threads are WHAT? WHY ar eyou focussing o I'ville and Kiwij? Is it easier than focussing on your M?

Honest question.


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No the fact didn't escape me at all. If you go read the Idiotville Rules thread, I said that as long as Idiotville insists on clogging up the forum with multiple threads, I would be glad to help in shoving all the other threads off page one for you.

If nobody had posted to these threads, as I told Pepperband, I would have deleted them this morning. Now I don't have to.

The bottom line is this whole issue is over KiwiJ and she is just not worth it. If you wish to defend the actions of a WW who is betraying her husband because she is your friend, do it in IV. I can see why a WW would want to come here for support. She has her friends in IV just for that.

All I have said is that tucktummy's thread was totally unnecessary and had hoped it would die but apparently it cannot. I see the value in humor. I know that some of the IV people also offer serious support for the rest. All good stuff. I only take issue with what tucktummy did.

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and she is just not worth it.


Point taken, Ghost.

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Jen, let this go!!! this is not worth your energy. focus on your life. ok??

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Yes, focus on her life and not telling her husband about breaking NC with OM.

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For the record, I think the concept of the "idiotville" thread is really dumb.....but, that is just my opinion...I never bother to read anything on that thread....however on the other hand, why would you listen to my opinion on that anyway...I spent over $500.00 bucks on a fountain pen (you could get the same end result from a free drug rep pen)...that may even be dumber than someone posting on the idiotville thread.....<chuckle>

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I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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I totally agree Lemonman. Let IV stay where it is. It is an MB sponsored chat room. Fine. All I have asked is that it stay in one thread. My WW bought me a Mont Blanc one birthday. I could have throttled her. What a waste of money. I don't even know where the darn thing is. It leaked once and ruined a great shirt. Another waste of money.

I loved Pepperband's post yesterday. It really brought some things out in the open. Some people IMO use Idiotville in moderation and also post genuinely helpful advice on other threads. Other people are simply bored and are addicted to the daily banter. One person only posts from work (and justifies that). Another has nothing to do all day while family is away so it is a hobby.

There are more main stream MBers like you who post to help others. Not that I am a big fan of yours - I still have you on my ignore list. But I am glad that you are here to try to help others.

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That could even count as your premier idiot qualification to become a member! But you probably haven't done 2 other dumb things in your life--you have to have 3, you know--so since you're too smart to belong, it's good to know you're not outside brooding over your lost opportunity! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I did that for awhile, but I got over it once I had a pad of my own. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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P.S. Hi to you, no silliness intended.

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Piojitos - Actually you and Lemonman are a lot alike. He gave his WW a chance, and the second time she was history.

Sorry you got off on the wrong foot together. I think the two of you think the same.

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