Well now I am really scared. Did you ever see the movie "Candy Man"? What was it? Five times in the mirror? Now I will be a nervous wreck in fear that I will do two more dumb things. "Candy Man" "Candy Man" "Cand..."

I accidentally posted on Idiotville once before I knew what it was. Nikko quickly ran me off. I am neutral on IV. For me it is a time-consumer and I can't imagine ever having that much free time. I can also see how, if I subscribed to it, would take away from my 15 hours with my family. I think IV is an addiction just like an A is an addiction. I think the people that spend all day posting there are in the same denial as a WS. I have no clue who robby13 is but my perception is that people like that need to get a life. That is not intended for him directly - just an overall view of things. So rather than put his screen name, let's just say that anonymous13's of the world should take a look at what they are doing.

For the record, if KiwiJ would tell Rob about her A, I would be right there for her and support her in any way I could. But, at the moment, if it looks like a duck...

ok, but if lemonman is on your ignore list, how did you see his post???

i'm confused!!

Ahem..... did you see my post about you and Lemonman being alike?

Yes believer I always read your posts. You are on my favorites list.

I put this thread on my favorites list last night. The ignore list doesn't apply to email notification. "Edits" don't get seen on emails either - only the original post.

ohhhhhh, ok, thanks for the explaination <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Pio won't read this but I have to say it:

Not involved with marriage building?:

Let's see:

Robby, divorced during his time on Idiotville. Idiots saw him through this extremely painful time by keeping his spirits up and being there for him.

Dealan-D: Continued harassment by OCs x 2 mother. Continued wavering by the Wookie, DDs H. Idiots saw her through this painful time by keeping her spirits up and being there for her.

LINY: Found out most of his brothers and sisters had been sexually abused by their older brother. Couldn't remember if he had been or not. Idiots saw him through this painful time by keeping his spirits up and being there for him.

TT: TT has already given the run down of her sitch. Idiots saw her through this painful time by keeping her spirits up and being there for her.


Believer: Continued rubbish dished out by WH. Idiots saw her through this painful time by keeping her spirits up and being there for her.

Neak: The loss of a dearly loved and wanted baby. Idiots saw her through this painful time by keeping her spirits up and being there for her.

Jelly: Jelly, our glue, our Queen - can make you laugh when all you want to do is crawl somewhere and die.

RH and NOW: A difficult recovery, difficult times. Idiots saw them through this painful time by keeping their spirits up and being there for them.

RIF: Late night from Iraq (or was it Afghanistan) talking BobP down through another bad night.

KiwiJ: Slipped and nearly fallen. Idiots are pressuring me to do the right thing (tell my H I had contact - there is no ongoing A or contact to confess).

I can't even remember the others. Celly, who kept threatening to take his life, KA, who threatened to take his life. Idiots were there through the night and through the day, making the difference.

NCW: RAP (known to us and loved by us) has a second A with a different OM. Privately NCW gains support from the Idiots and other MBers.

FF: Constant wavering by her H. Birth of her H's OC during her time on Idiotville. Support and care and humour and love from her Idiot friends.

Nikko: Health problems and H problems and son problems. Idiots were there.

Dobie: Funny and clever and so much common sense it hurts.

The Idiots were there when my son lost 2 of his closest friends and their 2 year old baby in a motor accident.

and I am very, very close to confessing.

My DS is out tonight.

piojitos

You haven't read much of the idiotville thread, so the preposition you seem to make that idiotville is of no marriagebuilding value is unsubstantiated, right?

Well as kiwiJ says here, I spent some time there. In fact 3400 of my ridiculous post count was made there. Idiotville ran a "nightshift" back in the day when this Englishman was witnessing his life crumbling. KiWi, Aussie & Aussie's wife. LINY and our friend RIF kept me from driving off a cliff many many nights. A soldier in action, a university administrator,a tax official, a soldier and a new mom and COUNTLESS others extraordinary ordinary people were there for me and Squid. WHAT skills and experiences they brought to my situation ! To EACH OTHERS' situations !

Idiotville was slightly different to the rest of the boards because it was not so anonymous. People showed more of their personalities to people they learned more about there. We learned more about each other there, and so were also able to offer more appropriate insight as a result sometimes.

The nightshift kept me going, and the dayshift kept me sane. I did most of my LEARNING about MB from books and from the Wis Ones out on the main boards, but I learned about its application and relevence from the Idiots.

I don't drop in Idiotville often now, I'm perhaps selfishly concentraing on 'fitting my own mask before helping others' just lately, as my own recovery is going beter than for a very long time after quite a dark period. But I'd still take issue with anyone who judged Idiotville to be useless, annoying or non-MB. It patently is none of those things in my own experience.

Marrigebuilding is hard. Flipping the bid to the demons attacking you someims helps you get through another day. Thats where Idiotville is UNIQUE IMO.

That's my $0.02.

BTW I bet a lot more forum space is taken up with BS' DJ'ing KiwiJ and idiotville, that idiotville itself this past week.

Bob, the contention is not with IV but the need for a second IV thread.

Todd, I can assure you the Idiots don't need more than one thread.

Tucktummy, a BS BTW, was over zealous perhaps. She loves the Idiots and what we've done for her.

I will probably confess tonight. Please pray for me.

Am I the only person on MBs who doesn't think that Jen should tell Rob? In fact, I don't get why she told us!!! As for IV? Totally stupid. I wouldn't be seen dead there. Well, maybe just once or twice, but no body saw me!! God it felt good.... and I'm not telling David, no matter how many posts are dedicated to making me confess.

AN

Yes.

What is your reasoning for Jen not to tell Rob?

I repeat. I have no problem with Idiotville being whatever it is. My only point since the very beginning was that it does not need a second thread initiated by tummytuck to tell everyone else how great Idiotville is. If that second thread will die (and now all these extra ones I created), so will I.

anyname,

Opinions vary over time with all people.

You have arrived at a place that thinks conflict avoidance and lying is the best thing to do in a marriage, and that's your opinion.

You also believe that humans are genetically predisposed to infidelity, and that, once again , is your opinion and you are entitled to it.

KiwiJ,

Had you thought of changing your language to make it easier to tell your husband? Confess is a word fraught with heinous consequences and so is frightening on its own beyond the feared consequences - like a DOUBLE WHAMMY.

Why not refer to it as something else - like "sharing" - then you only have the fear of the actual not the added fear the word conjures up.

The calmer you can be the better it is for both of you. Stress, as I am sure you know, magnifies everything.

I don't know the details of how the contact happened, but feel the thing that would bother me most would be the with holding of happening as much or more than actual contact - depending of course on sitch.

So if you and others in this sitch regard it as sharing - rather than confessing - maybe it would make it easier for you to do, or am I talking twaddle, having been awake all night worrying about my ability to cope with my own sitch without Lbing..

SP

hey "P"man---i am the one you reffered to with the family and nothing better to do all day while they are gone....let me tell you **********edit*********...you couldnt do 1/4 of what i do in a day if they cloned two more of you god forbid..... if you notice i come on mostly in the morning.....i usually start my day at around 4:30-5am. and i am non stop till i collapse at 11pm. have i been on a bit more lately....yeah....if ya bothered to know anything about me i am recovering from surgery to remove a tumor the size of a small lemon from my neck.....i have been on bedrest and recoupping. i am not allowed to do anything and have been yelled at regularly by my idiot friends for trying. as soon as i get the go ahead to resume my life i will go back to training my, and other horses.....so as you can tell i am use to 1200lb [censored]....you dont scare me...annoy me but not scare me. people like you have come and gone...mostly gone without helping a soul....but you leave your mark of anger and spite on these boards for months to come after you go.....

oh and as for running you outta i'ville......i was very nice to you till you started posting nasty things there....then all i did was throw a couple of questions at ya and ya ran....i must be way more powerfull than even i thought!(i guess im like pep now---making people do things they dont want to...lol)

i never ran you off or judge you till now....how dare you comment on my life when you know NOTHING about it....and for everyone who will ask...no it wasnt cancer and i am fine, thanks. now where the heck is my coffee......lol

So I guess the answer to the question of this thread is that Idiotville does, in fact, need multiple threads. One by itself won't hold all the egos.

Justuss,

I see you edited nikko's post. Why is it that forum guidelines don't allow me to be useless but they do allow me to be a [censored]? How did you make that division?

It seems it wasn't big enough for yours.