Was thinking of you and wondered how you are doing.......

Hugs!
DW

You're very kind DW, thank you for thinking of me.

I guess I've been kind of quiet lately.

No word from the guy, that forgot he was in love [7 weeks ago, but hey, who's counting....]
I still have a high opinion of him, but I'm doing better with the whole deal.

Something odd/crazy did happen to me a couple of weeks ago. On a trip to the post office, the clerk asked me if I was married. I bet all the color washed from my face. My immediate thought was, great, I strike out with the male population and I have a woman interested in me.
I sheepishly said, no. She went on to say, I have a brother who's divorced and I told him about a woman that comes into the post office..........
She asked me if I'm dating or date, to which of course the answer was not currently.
I told her I'm not good at this stuff, but my name is Karona **** and my # is in the phone book if he is brave.
He did call me and I'm meeting him for lunch on Sunday.

He is 7 yrs older than me is pretty much all I know at this point, and he has a strong, [did I mention strong] country accent. I have no idea what he looks like, she didn't say and I didn't ask.

I have been thinking maybe its not fair that I go because I feel so indifferent about meeting him.
I'm at a weird spot, and I don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing. I'm more thinking about myself currently and what changes I can make in my life concerning myself, which do not include a man. I don't mean that as a bitter statement. Simply meaning, I must look out for myself and not assume there will be a guy. KWIM?

Anyway, I will post about it after it happens.
I'm going with zero expectations, but planning to enjoy the lunch.

How about you DW? Things going well with boyfriend still?
Are the kids involved at this point?
Let me know.

Thanks for asking about me, you're sweet!

Karona

hey korona! i think the fact that you are so indifferent about meeting him is exactly why you should go!!!
just when you least expect it or think you are not interested...

have fun and do fill us in!!!
mlhb

Enjoy. I need to know that someone is dating. My life has been filled with responding to legal motions from X, who feels I should be the chauffer since he cant' be bothered to drive his children to school.

MLHB I love your profile, how did you describe my X so well?

It's nice to be concerned about other people feelings... but... don't 'exaggerate'... maybe he thinks the same... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

A healthy hope we should always have... unlike having expectations before meeting & knowing someone at least a bit...

So, go and enjoy meeting new people.
I'd go, hoping if I don't find 'man of my life', I might find one more good friend of my life. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Or, in the worst, getting a few more calories having that lunch. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

great newly, you mean there are TWO men out there like that?!

God help the world...

mlhb

Thanks for the positive/encouraging thoughts.

mlhb~ I don't know.......I seriously have zero expectations, in fact I've been talking myself out of the whole thing ever since I agreed to the lunch.

Newly~ I don't know that I'm fully ready to put myself "out there" again as far as dating. This last guy *really* stung.

Concerning your x, I'm sorry that he feels you should accomodate him, afterall, he was the one seeking the better life. One would think, once he acquired all the happiness something as simple as taking his kids to school would be insignificant.
My x pulls the same crap. He does not follow the decree as he set up. He uses the phrase, *best for the girls*. Love it! He knew how it all should work since he followed footsteps of one of his buds. He used him as an example....nice! However, he found that having the girls one night, overnight during the week during the school year was too much trouble. Getting them to school in the morning didn't fit in his schedule. Oh, and this day is not really the best day, blah, blah, blah......
Why oh why is it all about them? Haven't figured it out.
I've been ticked concerning him lately, thus the reason for my quietness. Can you tell?!!

B2M~~
Thanks, and you are right. I do need to think of it in those terms.
And I would be fine with having a new friend. That would be about the speed I could handle right now.

Thanks again!
Karona

K,
I've not been posting due to my frustrations. People think I should date, but my time is consumed by the kids and responding to X's court motion, and his outbursts. It's just sick. I responded to X's motion (that I pick up the kids from his house and drive them to school) by myself without a lawyer. I had a paralegal friend review it.
The package was 2 inches thick. I hand delivered it to the courthouse on Friday, then hand delivered it to X's new lawyer, who proceeded to explain the process to me, then sat down with me for 30 minutes to hear my side. He asked questions like "why don't you just call him?".
Me: "Well, that is #X in the response. He doesn't answer his phone or return phone calls".
Lawyer actually thought X was listening to him, and seemed shocked when I told him that X wasn't taking the kids on my business trips, and his mom was still driving the kids to school. (Apparently these were against the lawyers instructions).
I'm hoping this legal stuff goes well. I find out on June 8 or 9. Twice this week, X screamed at me. He actually took DD8 to her softball game, and I went to watch. Below are my notes.
When DD was playing second base, X called me over to talk.
He said “Look at her”. I said “what am I looking at?”. He said “Just look at her” Again I said “what am I looking at?”. He said “can’t you see her fidgeting out there. She’s not paying attention. The coach is yelling at only her this entire game.” I said, yes, she’s distracted, as are other kids.
He comments that she has the worst behavior on the team. I said, she’s the youngest on the team made up of 3rd & 4th grade girls and others have played before. He said “There’s something wrong with her”.
He continues on this path and wonders why DD is so anxious. Her father makes her feel inferior. He won't take her to counselor, doctors, etc. I've had her tested. She's a wonderful child, just rambunctious. (her counselor said perhaps I accept it because I was that way <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)
So my frustrations with him continue. Work is busy. I'm off to vegas tomorrow to speak at a conference (one overnight).
Hope all is well with you.
Now, when am I supposed to fit in dating? And what man wouldn't run when they heard the crap I have to deal with?

Newly,

I want/will respond. I have been a little more busy the last couple of days.
Thinking of you.

K!

for the update on yesterday......Not too good

Oh my, we are total opposites, and I really don't wish to go out with him again.
How do I say that? Please someone have an idea of a kind way if he calls me again. [keeping in mind, I at some point will face his sister again]

Karona

Well Newly, I can certainly understand why you're not up for dating right now.

How 'bout you filling his lawyer in on his antics?!!!
Can the person be that amazed? I suppose it can happen, he is only being told your x's side.

Now, the part concerning your 8 yr old daughter really gets me. This man should be so thankful his child is out there playing and is fidgety. She's healthy and normal for goodness sakes.
I bothers me to think what he potentially says to her while she spends time with him. Yes, I'm sure she is anxious.


Well Newly, I have to agree, way too much drama right now. Concerning the latter, I don't think a guy would run from you. I believe you to be a good person, and some guy some day is going to be lucky.

And how was your trip? Sounds like a quick one!

Take care & be strong!

K.

Hi Karona <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

First, I apologize for asking about you and then disappearing........life has been hectic!

I'm glad to hear you are doing better concerning previous guy. Amazing how time does heal all...

As for your date yesterday, I'm very proud of you for going and giving it a shot! Good for you. Now as for how to kindly turn him down should he call? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Yikes, I'm very bad in that area! So hard to do. Gosh, I can't think of a thing to suggest. I'll have to mull it over. You want to be kind yet honest. NOT an easy combo <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Care to fill us in on the details of the actual date? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

As for BF and I, things are really good, thanks for asking <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Kids all have been reintroduced, which went so much better than I anticipated! My daughter, who was prob the most cautious of them all, has really opened up. We had a really fun night the other night and I could tell she was feeling really comfy around him again...lots of laughing and rough housing....very nice bonding night.

As for our relationship, it was a little rough in the beginning, lots of raw emotion, but trust is being earned and re-built and BF has been steafast and true. I'm not there yet 100% but there has been loads of progress.

Hugs!
DW

Hi again DW!

No need to apologize.

I'm glad to hear things are going so well for you. You give me hope! I think it's great that your daughter is doing well with everything too. Very happy for you.

As far as the date is concerned, he was nice enough and conversation was easy, but that's it.
It's a matter of personal preference.
His appearance reminded me of a guy I would see if I went to a bar. I had a visual of him drunk at the bar, barely able to hold his head up, and trying to hit on someone.
I don't even know if this guy drinks.
What I do know is, while at lunch, one eye had a tendency to shut. I didn't know if he was falling asleep, maybe a lazy eye, drunk? I just don't know. The only thing I do know is, no more blind dates from someone who doesn't know me. This one was too much for me.

K!

LOL!!!

OMG LOL!

Your post literally cracked me up Karona! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So he was a bit "rough" around the edges, huh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

How'd the date end? Did he seem interested? As in like, he's gonna call for date #2?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I've never been on a blind date myself, so I admire you for doing so!

Hugs!
DW

Oh, it's funny now DW, but let me tell ya, it was not on Sunday.

The date ended with him saying, we will have to do something outside when the weather gets nicer. My response was, I don't know if it's going to get nice this year. [I don't know where that came from, it just popped out]
He said, I'll call you, or you can call me, you have my #.
I will not be making that phone call I can assure you.

Thanks for the hug, I needed it!
K!

At least we can laugh about the stuff. Blind dating is difficult.

My X's lawyer apparently talked to him, because he called me (on cell) to say he was taking DD to softball. Then he asked to talk to the girls. Well, I said "they are not here with me, I'm in Vegas on business. I asked if you wanted to keep them tonight but you said no. They should be at home if you want to speak to them"

Duh. 26 hours in vegas is very invigorating, and very tiring. I got a great tan and lost money, but the trip was on my company's dime at the Mandalay Bay resort. Yeah.
We should plan an MB girls trip somewhere.

Well friends, as if I didn't have enough of my last blind date, I *think* I'm going to go on another one.
NO, not with the same guy.

It's another weird set up. It's thru a [not close] friend's husband. I don't know either of them well, and the guy they are setting me up with works with her husband. I guess her husband thought of me some time ago, but she just now has asked me if I would go.

I'm thinking, after the last one, what the heck.
Funnier, I don't even get nervous anymore about this stuff.
I have no expectations and don't think past the first meet.

I don't know when or even if it will happen, but at least I'm being thought of.

Karona

I like that idea!

Karona, Isn't it something - sad, funny, wonderful?? - that you're becoming a veteran at the dating game?

Who would've ever thunk it?

Newly,

Huh, your x sounds like mine. Give him all the info and he skips by the details.
I give mine exact copies of my girls events and he still calls me to see when/where/what time. One day, if I get the courage, I'm going to say, you have a new wife, ask her.

Your trip sounds like a whirlwind, but of the fun kind.

I'm with LT, a girl trip would be fun!

And LT~ are things going well for you? What have you been into? Did you boat over the Holiday?

Karona

Hi K, No boating, it was kind of cold over the weekend, but I went out with a group of women friends. We went to a local coffee house /night club to listen to live music, play cards, and dance. It was actually quite fun. And my (X's) niece, her son, and nephew stopped by on Sunday.

I've had some work done on the boat and it should be running much better than last year and the Friday night jazz on the lake concerts should be starting soon.

How about you?