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WW agreed for the first time since we seperated to go to a movie tonight with DS and I.
She has been very firm about US (her and I) not doing ANYTHING together. Especially with DS. We did do a school function together though.
She feels that if she and I do anything together, it will confuse DS.
My question is, do I ask her to come back to the house for a little bit afterwards?
I have asked her to go have coffee or something like that months ago and she told me to stop asking her to do things with me. So I did.
Also, could this be a good sign? Could she be thinking ?
Could this be a test ?
I am pretty sure how I am going to conduct myself (friendly, slightly stand-offish, but listen to every word she says) but what do I do if she brings up us ?
She also has a female friend that she is very tight with. What do I do if WW suddenly invites her?
I really don't want the friend there.
I need a advice badly ...
I have scrubbed the whole house (even cleaned the baseboards!!)and just about done everything I can to keep myself distracted....
Its getting close and I guess I am getting a little anixious...
HELP !!!
Rowing upstream, against the current ....
Because I love her and she is WORTH IT !!
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Be the nice and kind guy that you are. What about you attracted her to you in the beginning? Be that way. Woman are (generally) more attracted to a nice and confident guy.
If things are going well, invite her ONCE to come over and hang out. If she refuses, dont get sad, just be happy like it's no big deal.
Don't even talk about 'us' unless she brings it up. And if she talks about serious topics, let her lead the discussion.
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Sundog - Thanks for the reply --
Thats what I will do ...
Can any ladies tell me what it is with haveing a girlfriend with her all the time?
I don't understand.
She is over at ther house all the time and she seems to spend all her time with her.
And no, its not like that.
She just always has her around and always seems to bring her to things.
Is it a "feel secure" thing or someting like that ??
Rowing upstream, against the current ....
Because I love her and she is WORTH IT !!
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So we went and saw the movie...
she sat a seat away from me. No big deal to me. I expected it.
Afterwards, she tried to pick a fight with me. I guess she had much of a good time and had to do something to get herself angry again.
Too bad I didn't engage ....
All and all, it wasn't all bad ....
Didn't change anything though ...
Rowing upstream, against the current ....
Because I love her and she is WORTH IT !!
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She feels that if she and I do anything together, it will confuse DS. Based on her trying to start a fight after the movie, sounds like its confusing HER. I would say this is a GOOD THING. Keep up the PLAN A .... meeting her needs when you can, but no doormat activites. Jo
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