One common thing we almost always see in affairs is the wayward spouse thinking that the other person is their soulmate. It's abundant.

You even see it in news, Tori Spelling's new husband slept with her while married and justified it because Tori was his 'soulmate'.

My wife felt that the OM was her 'destiny'.

But when I think about this I compare it to all the relationships when I and my wife were single and we never felt that way with other people. Not even each other. Sure, I fell pretty hard for some women in the past, but I never felt anyone was destined to be my eternal lover. Why does this feeling come out mostly in affair situations?

I have a couple thoughts on why this happens.

My first is that the affair couple must justify their immoral behavior. There is also a lot of guilt involved here. What better way to feel better about their actions than if they were to believe that they were made for each other... intended to be together by the divine forces that control the universe.

Another thought is the way in we (humans) desire and lust for those things we are forbidden to have. Something about the whole forbidden love just drives us crazy doesn't it? We love it. We watch it in movies, we read it in books, we daydream about it. It's always the forbidden love that makes our hearts melt.

Why is it not the story about the couple that lived 80 years together and died in each others care? Why is it The Bridges of Madison County and The Notebook that are considered the best dramas?

Well, back to my point. I think a lot of it has to do with our darn brains. It's always the empty space that we humans fill in with the most wonderful potential.

What if I was with him? Things could be so wonderful. She would do everything to make me happy.

It's amazing how powerful it can be. It motivates people to ruin the lives of those around them, and in the end themselves.

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Hmm, dunno, I had more to say, but my wife is here to pick me up....

If the OP was that great, we'd all see it. The fact that we don't see it is quite telling doncha think?

So if that's the best 'soulmate' she can dig up....I'd run.

Of course that's my reverse babble logic. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

Soulmate is a way of not being accountable. See, if it was DESTINED, there's nothing the WS could do about it.

***Soulmate is a way of not being accountable. See, if it was DESTINED, there's nothing the WS could do about it.***

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Perfect!

Mulan

Thanks, Mulan. You can also use that explanation for almost anything that comes out of the WS's mouth.