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#1664042 05/20/06 01:17 AM
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Ok, so if you read my last post you know a bit about my situation. Now I need to know..do I use Plan A or continue with Plan B?? I told him today of my boundries bur feel its important to give him a plan for recovery, especially since he specifically asked how we could rebuild. I'm confused...how do I do this and would it by wrong since I set the boundry? I could write it out and mail it to him. My biggest thing is I dont want him to feel I'm abandoning him because of pervious circumstances in our marriage. I want him to know I love him and am not bailing out because its rough on me but I cant let him have us both. I need some advise...I'm pretty confused. Thank you..teresa


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Pull back and chill. It maybe best to keep your questions on 1 thread so you can see your progress.

As for plans A & B, that's for your protection. R U done making your personal improvements? How can you have boundaries if u r confused?

I think you are running ahead of yourself. Refocus, regroup and then plan. What have you read from MB? Try reading SAA and HN/HN. Then call Steve for a plan.

Breathe....deep cleansing breathes. clear the clutter from your mind and get things back into perspective. You can do it.

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You belong in Plan A right now. It includes showing him what a great wife you can be, no disrespectful judgements or angry outbursts.

It is probably best not to talk about your relationship. Let him call you, and get busy making a nice life for yourself. I'm sure he will be back.

If you are too upset to follow through, go see a doctor for some anti-depressants.

Also protect yourself financially.


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