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#1664072 05/20/06 08:29 AM
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Cherished, I have been on this board for a long time. Once in a while, I still look at your posts.

But not that often. For a number of reasons. Your H abused you. You are still there. You try to control every action that your H takes. YOu try to run the show.

You cannot control your H. Only your reaction. Cherished. The fact the your H broke your arm and did other damage repluses me. There is no excuse for it. Period.

But on the other hand, what is YOUR excuse for STAYING? The Harleys have TOLD you this will not work. YOu have DEMANDED that your H spend 15 hours with you. HE DOES NOT WANT TO!.

So drop it already. YOU are using his ABUSE as a weapon and playing the role of MARTYR. HOw many times have you been advised that YOU are being a poor role model for your CHILDREN? How many times have you been advised to get the he!! away from there.

HAve you? No. Instead you push and push and DEMAND that your H do what YOU DEMAND.

It won't work.

SO as Dr phil says, how is this working for you? Your H broke your arm FOUR AND A HALF YEARS AGO!

Are you TRYING to manipulate your H to BEAT you again? SO you can be a martyr to a very sick and unhealhty relationship? BOTH OF YOU!

WHY? WHY do you have the abuse in your sig? Is the role of a battered wife something you would say in a normal conversation? LIke "Hi, I am cherished, my husband broke my arm" And then introduce your H?

HOW is THAT working?

Cherished, instead of working on an abusive marriage, work on yourself. That is something that would be far more productive. Because imvho, YOU have some very serious issues that all the MB stuff cannot address.

ALL this effort for what? I feel sorry for your sitch I do. However, your DEMANDS on your H are the red flag of your own control issues.

My prayers go out to your children that they have to witness this every day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


BS-58/XH48
D final Dec31/07
Long hard road & at peace now
Unrepentant serial cheater living with DP4 for 4yrs

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