I have a few other posts about my H EA but I have a new question for anyone who can help. My H works closely with the OW (they work literally side by side for atleast 25 hrs a week) and he is going to transfer but unfortunately the process will take some time. Now the problem is while he's being very open about his work now he obviously has not been and now I have very little faith in what he tells me now. I'm always wondering whether or not they are talking especially since she is becoming more desperate in her atttempts to attract his attention. I know trusting him while he is working with her will be very difficult. If anyone has any suggestions on how to find out whether or not they are talking and how to deal in the interim between now and his transfer please let me know. It would be so greatly appreciated.

Thanks
Mellysue

put a listening device in his car

assume they are "talking"

if their "talk" gets personal and romantic... they will take it out of the building

go to Radio Shack and get a listening device

put it in his car

change the batteries frequently

there have been many posts about which device works best ... if you cannot find this info easily... begin a new thread asking specifically which device you might buy & why

Pep

Sue, part of what you need is information, as Pepper indicated earlier. I think you need to mount a military-style intelligence gathering operation. In my signature block below is a link to a thread discussing all kinds of ways to do that. Take a look and see what you can do, okay?

Additionally, here is a thread detailing what a WS must do in the workplace when leaving the company is utterly impossible. I don’t think this can be sustained indefinitely so your husband must keep working on the transfer or find a completely new job.

Here’s the link: How To Do NC At Work

Sue, I think there are things you can do along with your husband. How about you dropping by every once in a while (unexpectedly) to take hubby to lunch, for instance? Short telephone calls at random intervals are good too. How ‘bout hubby commits to calling you at breaks or lunches, and when he begins his drive home from work? These are what I came up with off the top of my head and they may not be valid for your husband’s particular circumstances. I hope, though, they give you a place to start. Hang in there.