I didn't want to threadjack OW's mom, but I had never even thought before about exposing to HER family.

How would I find them? Contact them?

In my case, the OW is divorced, so has a different last name from her parents. She still works with my H, and they say they have broken things off, but H hasn't agreed to NC. So I'm assuming that the A is is still going on. I am thinking that exposing to her family might help put some pressure on HER side of things. Her friends, co-workers, and supervisors already knew and actually encouraged the A by making it into a challenge, so exposign to them did no good.

Hadn't thought about her family though. How would I go about finding out who they are and how to contact them? And what on earth would I say?

Thanks!

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there are many web engines that will allow you to join for a month... and search a data base.... if you know the ow's current name you will be able to come up with every address that she has ever lived at. You can then use that information... which often times includes phone numbers to do a general search through MSN white pages... reverse address to find out the name her parents... once you have the address. If the phone numbers are current on the data base... it is all that much easier. It will cost you about $9.99 for a one moth subscription to most places. Just do a google search for "people search U.S." Good luck

try peoplefinders.com

Go to freeality.com...........there are many search engines there.I used it.

Ami, your assumption the adultery is ongoing is most certainly correct. Have you exposed to the Human Resources Director where your WH and OW work? If they don't have one, go to the big boss's office, sit yourself down and let him/her know what a cesspool is developing in that corporation and ask what is going to be done about it.

Now, as far as finding out OW's family, you might try Peoplefinders.com or ZabaSearch.com. Don’t forget just a simple Google search too.

Many county and municipal government records are online now. If you know where she was divorced, the decree or documents filed with it may give her maiden name. If you find out where she was married, you could find that info also. If it’s local, you might have to take the low-tech approach, go to the courthouse, and ask for documents. Who knows, knowing her date of marriage and where the license was issued might lead you to a newspaper article referring to her parents.

Failing all this, find a PI who specializes in research for these types of information and let them do all the work for you.

Send me the name and town to my email. I will find out her parents names if they are available.

baydog@zoominternet.net

Wow, thanks mkeveryday ... I will get the info together and send itto you first thing in the morning.

Thanks, Longhorn. Actually, my H beat me to the punch and exposed himself at work right after our D-day. Then his bosses exposed to her bosses ... all the way up to the highest levels in both companies (separate companies, but they work together). They put in place all these safeguards that are supposed to prevent contact "other than professional contact". Obviously, though, that's NOT NC. And it's just not going to be acceptable (which H just does not get). So I'm assuming that the affair is ongoing and I'm going with Plan A until Sept 1 -- that's the dealine I set for myself.

Neither of them think that "professional contact" is a problem, and neither do any of their superiors. In fact, they both think they can "be friends". It's ridiculous. So, since exposing at work didn't help, I'm hoping her family might be a good way to go. I'm hoping she has a mom like OW's mom who posted here.

OW's mom -- I am SO impressed with you!!

Thanks all!
-Ami.