i have been with my partner several years. And i'm trying to make my relationship work. he's a great guy in many ways but he doesn't communicate. it doesn't occur to him to share any news about family or friends. he 'forgets' to tell me his plans. he is closed with his feelings, for example, recently he found out that his mother's dying of cancer but he won't show his feelings in the slightest. i don't know what is going through his head. it leaves me frustrated as if i live with a robot. i can't support him with any of his problems because i don't know how he's feeling. any arguments we have had have always stemmed from lack of communication. i have tried everything. we love each other and he acknowledges that we need to communicate but nothing ever changes. he's such a strange individual. if i start talking about something serious he starts clowning around. we have always been faithful to each other and trust each other but now i'm beginning to feel attracted to other men. please help!

Please check out Dr Harley's book: His Needs/Her Needs. In addition to personal issues men vs women communicate on very different levels. Understanding those levels will help you be able to communicate with him.

Some men are great communicators at work but not at home. Many corp execs are notorious for being uncommunicative H's who seem to run very successful businesses. Still the trick to learn HOW to communicate.

Let us know how you do. Also you can always call Steve H for a plan.

take care,
L.