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Help!!!!!
#1665006 05/22/06 10:22 AM
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I have a question?
Ive been married for almost 2 yrs and been with the same women for about 6 yrs.
In the last 2-3 months we have been going through a couples ******.
Shes not sure if she wants to stay.
when we do family activities you'd never know anything was wrong until we go back to work.
i work nights and she works day to save on daycare.
we have a 19 month old daughter.
we did do some marrige couselling (1 session)
Ive told her that our family life seems 100% and she agreed
but ive also told her that we need to find why we fell in love to begin with and maybe this will help.
She would like to move out and see if this is what she really wants. To me if my marrige fails it would be the biggest failure ive ever seen and i dont want that.
so any replies would be great
thank you
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sjowett #1665007 05/27/06 04:32 PM
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Just exactly is the problem? Why does she want to bolt? We need more info.

Me: 50. W: 50. Happily married since 1993. 3 kids.
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she wants to know if being married is what she wants or if the single life is what she wants.
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sjowett #1665009 06/07/06 09:57 AM
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Has she said what about her married life she doesn't like?

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rs0522
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sjowett #1665010 06/07/06 10:04 AM
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i work nights and she works day to save on daycare.

So what is your plan to get on the same schedule? It's obvious that what you are saving dollar wise is not worth what it is costing you. Heck, if'n y'all are both working full-time on separate shifts she probably only feels a step away from being single anyway.

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we did do some marrige couselling (1 session)

Why did you only do one session?

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but ive also told her that we need to find why we fell in love to begin with and maybe this will help.
She would like to move out and see if this is what she really wants.

OK.... Have you taken time to read through the basic concepts of this site. If so, you'll see that you need to meet her Top 5 emotional needs, knowing why y'all fell in-love really has nothing to do with that. Plus eliminate ALL love busters. And spend atleast 15 hours of undivided attention together a week, that means without the baby, which with y'all working opposite shifts that's almost impossible.....

Hugz, Thoughtz, & Prayerz

Bill

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