My fwh and I have been in recovery for awhile. The process has been slow and not without it bumps.

I heard something that made me smile the other day, while accompanying my fwh on a scenic drive.

When he turned on his engine, he had the c.d. version of, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" in <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and it was playing the part of how important it is for marriage partners to spend 15 hours together at a minimum, to maintain a happy effective marriage, which is so simular to Dr. Harley's beliefs of the importance of time spent with your partner.

I have to smile, because during the turmoil of DD and the months that followed, my ws wanted nothing to do with "Dr. Harley" or his books, and felt I was trying to educate him, which I was, <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> , and now he listens and follows the advice of "Stephen Covey", which often mirrors some of the philosophy of Dr. Harley.

It is so ironic, slap a different label or cover on similar ideas or theories, such as "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", instead of "Surviving an Affair" or "His Needs, Her Needs, and my husband is soaking it all up.

It goes to show you what a title can do, or not do. Hmm.....


I am betting, Mr. Stephen Covey is a fan of Dr. Harley. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Thoughtful moments,

k.d.'s heartbreak

Nice to see you again! Glad to hear that things are moving along in a positive direction. I remember that book from years ago. How great that fate is giving your H the message in a form he can tolerate.

Hi Jean, long time, no see.

How has life been treating you lately?

Any new developments?

Thanks for responding to my post,


Sincerely,
k.d's heartbreak

Nothing new KDS, same ole, same ole.

For some reason, your book recommendation reminded me of a book I enjoyed called "The Millionaire Next Door". It talks about the habits of finacially secure individuals that surprise people that dream of the lavish lifestyle. I get tickled when I shop at the cheap-o, sack your own, no name brand grocery store (because I need to save the money). Along with the 'poor' people that have to shop there, there are many affluent people that shop there. Why pay more? Sugar is sugar is sugar.

Not that that has anything to do with what you were saying, I just ramble <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Good to see you around, I hope you and H enjoy and long, loving marriage for some of us that couldn't pull it off.

Actually, 7 Habits was published a year before Harley's first book - so the 15 hours may have actually come from Covey first - especially since Covey's book hit the New York Times Best Seller list and stayed there.

just a little factoid...

I'm a fan of both authors.

I know what you mean Jean, its all in the wrapping, and by the way, I love the cheap cannded food warehouses, they are great.



Thanks for the information about Stephen Covey and Harley time of release of their best selling books , KaylaAndy, good to know.