my wife and i have been separated for 4 months. we seem to have been making progress in our marriage. last friday, i went to see her and when i walked in the house and saw her, i had this very strong desire to make love to her. i kissed her passionately and she didnt object, led her to the bedroom and made what i thought was passionate love to her. now today she tells me that i violated her on that day!!! there was never a complaint or any indication that she was not into it. it seemed to me that she enjoyed it. we even snuggled a bit afterward and laughed together. now i am so confused. it seems that there is so much drama that comes with her. she has me on this emotional roller coaster and i really dont know what to do. violated her...wow that cut me to the quick. i dont think anything anyone has ever said to me has ever hurt as bad as that. i would never take something from her that she wasnt freely giving.
i really dont even know what the rules are in a seperation, not that there is some written down anywhere. maybe i should just put up walls to protect myself. i am tired of this and dont know what to do anymore....and i wont even be able to reply to this message because my account is still messed up and i cannot view or reply when logged in. but any advice would be helpful, if anyone can decipher my ramblings.