My husband and I met and started dating about seven years ago, were engaged, broke up, then got back together years later and found out we never really stopped loving each other or were ever able to love anyone else the same. We have always had it really easy being together, never really any sort of tension, even in the years we would see each other but weren't dating. Just a very easy relationship to manage because we're so open and because we balance each other out so well. He's never loved anyone like he has me, and has always had a certain image of me. I've always held a "good-girl" image to him because my morals have always been very high, especially when we dated the first time around.

Shortly after we got married, he found something out about my past that I did. Something I'm not all that proud of. The thing he's always held differently about me compared to other girls he dated was this "good-girl" image, the main reason he had such high respect for me. Well, when this one tiny bit of info about something I did while we weren't together got out to him, things have been bad ever since. He knows how I am in bed, so it's not like it's a secret to him how I can get. I think it's just the fact that I made this one discrepency, and now he seems disgusted by me. He's having a hard time looking past it. We don't get to see each other too often lately because he works overseas, but since he found out, we did see each other a few weeks later, and our bedroom behavior didn't change a bit. Better, if anything. So if it didn't bother him in the moment, while we were together, why is he still having a hard time looking past that? How do I get him to get over this? I tell him that's completely NOT how I am now, and he says it's just the fact that I did it. How can I get him to let go of this? Or is he holding onto this because it's the one thing he has to make me feel bad because he's made his own share of mistakes? He says he doesn't have any other problem with me and has absolutely nothing to do with infedelity or guilty conscience or anything like that. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. We can't change the past. This is up to him pretty much, either he gets past it or he doesn't. I think in the end he wouldn't let something like that end a beautiful relationship.

I am like that to, i tend to obsess about things, especially things about a spouse that happened before we met.

Just got to block it out and move on, even though that can be hard to do. I am sure in time, he will move on too.

Like it sais in a famous song, God bless the broken road that led me to you. I try to remember that every day.

I don't have any advice for you but, I've gone through the same thing w/my STBXH. I did something as a teenager that he has a problem w/but he has a past that wasn't much better. Anything that I told him about my past has been thrown up in my face repeatedly and has been used against me when it suited him.

We've all made mistakes and I bet you that he has done things that he wouldn't want you to know. None of us are perfect and we all have things we wish we could change.

I had someone tell me once that I don't need my H's forgiveness b/c I have God's. I didn't do what he has a problem w/while he was in my life. I was only 15 at the time. I was 38 when I met him.

Your H has the problem, not you. But, it becomes your problem I guess when he makes such a big deal out of it.