am writing this one down and beginning new journal......

what is up with the lack of brain cells or caring in a WS? huh????anybody got a clue?

anyhow. darth and his "brainiac" wifey are the causes of my ds having a horrible horrible sunburn all over his little arms.

so bad that we're still up right now. ds has thrown up, is unable to wear a shirt to sleep in, and screams in pain when anything touches him.

seems darth and his lakehouse castle is NOT COMPLETE WITH SUNSCREEN. or they have it and the wistress and his darkness chose NOT to spend FIFTEEN SECONDS of their overpriviliged lives keeping my son safe from sunburn...not to mention cancer...and pain.

i am taking photos of his burns, and writing it in the journal. this is just yet another of his serious parenting blunders.

sorry, this is a vent.

he doesn't get it. never will.

poor ds. he threw up two times. i calmed/cooled him down, gave him some pediatric tylenol (which he held down) , cool fluids to hydrate him and internally cool him, and cool packs. he is unable to zzzzz upstairs, is lying in my bed in pain, trying to distract himself from it by watching cartoons. his arms are hot, swollen and quite painful to the touch. i am madder than hades at the sith lord and his bimbo.

My STBXH is just as thoughtless, peach. i pack sunscreen now, though I doubt he would use it anyway.
he had the boys four nights one time--and NEVER bathed or brushed their teeth. When they came back, they SMELLED so bad. I was so ticked.

Hope your DS gets better soon. Burns of any sort hurt so bad. Give him a hug (well, a kiss on his head--hugs might hurt) from us.

intexas

thanks.

but this is going down on record. i have saved this in two spots on my pc...and will periodically print off this file and save it somewhere...as over time this will show his real colors.

sorry for your babies. just another way to NOT let a WS have babies with them. they aren't capable of doing anything for anybody other than themselves. incapable.

Peachy,

I am so sorry .... what an a$$..... Give DS a hug for me .....

Kick darth and the brainiac for me .....


Hurting

thanks sweetie.

i just hope darth and the braniac got burned in ALL THE WRONG SPOTS.

LOL Peach I hope so to ......



Hurting

Peach, that really stinks that he's not even thoughtful enough to protect a 7-year-old. Sheesh. I have to wonder, though....did THEIR baby get burned, or just yours?

Have you tried rubbing your DS's burned arms with Noxema? We native Floridians always used that for bad sunburns, and aloe gel that has some lidocaine in it (the Panama Jack version is blue and smells like mint, my kids love it) helps big time. Oh, and children's Motrin if you can get it would help a little bit better than the Tylenol, it would help take some of the inflammation out of the burn. One more thing, though...you may want to call your pediatrician and have it on your DS's MEDICAL record. With him throwing up, I'd be afraid of sun poisoning too. Just a thought. Really sucks that you have to deal with the damage a perfectly capable idiot could have prevented. And I feel REALLY bad for your poor little boy.

There's nothing that gripes me more than seeing a baby or small child with a sunburn. In this day and age with all we know about exposing skin to the sun and skin cancer, there is just NO EXCUSE for this!

Vent away, Peach. We're on your side!

Em

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My WH did this too. Took the twins on bike rides - way more than they could cope with. Their faces and backs were sizzled. It was a couple of years back but I was livid.

You know, a lady in Texas got put in jail for allowing her kids to get badly burned.

I second this idea. Nothing like an official, unbiased, third-party record backing up your records to give you all kinds of credibility.

So sorry to hear about your little one.

I'd also be sure to get this documented by your pediatrician. The more documentation the better. You might also want to send an email to him detailing the burn and all of the problems your son is now having. Tell him you are contacting the pediatrician and will let him know what is recommended.

I do this with anything that happens with my children when they are with their father. You'd be amazed at the stupid responses he has (most of which reinforce his stupidity when it comes to the kids) and it documents my attempts to keep communication lines open when it comes to the children.

FIM

I'm sorry to hear this Peachy, and hope your little one is feeling better.

My WH did this too last summer. Our son is only 3, well that time was only 2, and yet WH did not put any sunscreen and left him outside the pool while WH himself was sitting in the shade watching him play with the water. DS did not get burned, but got really sick and threw up several times that afternoon and evening. I was furious. And this same man called himself a great, caring, and responsible father suitable for full custody. Yeah, right. That time he could not even call for DS based on our set schedule, because he was too busy going out looking for his "ideal" lady.

I certainly hope that "irresponsibility" and "lack of common sense" are not heredity.

Milk

Peachy...

So sorry to hear about your son...EMU Oil is a miracle worker for sunburns...sounds strange, but I'm serious, it works...some drug stores may carry it...but health food type stores are probably your best bet...

Another product that we have found to be much better than aloe is one that is produced by California Tan...it's called Insurance...it contains evening primrose oil and calendula...we keep it in our fridge, as it works great on common household burns as well...

Alternately, there is a product that is carried by pharmacies and though it isn't script, it is carried behind the counter...it's called Calmoseptine...it remedies many things...it contains menthol and is very soothing...it was given to us in the hospital when our DD was an infant and had a severe diaper rash...so it's safe...even on broken skin...I have used it on myself to treat sunburn...

Lastly, try not to use anything with benzocaine in it...it might provide seemingly instant relief, but can lead to further skin irritations and prolong the healing process...

Good Luck...hope the little guy feels better soon!

Mrs. W

Sunburns when one is a child is what causes skin cancer later on in life. I recently had a conversation with a dermatologist who made this point abundantly clear... if this was an oversight on his part... people make mistakes... if it is a pattern of carelessness... he is putting your child at risk for long term health issues.
Consult your doctor... preferably a dermatologist.

I'm coming out with a blowtorch & wield it on darth & the stupid woman. See how they like burning pain.

thanks everybody...belle, you're my girl. glad I've got friends here lemme say that!

and will make "helpful call" to pedi tomorrow to get it documented. will ask his "advice" about it and what to put on it...and then ask his "recommendations and thoughts" about his dad/wistress inability to put sunscreen on him and could it cause him to have cancer? just stuff that will be placed again in chart...but will do it slyly.

I asked Darth today bout it. He was totally darth about the whole thing. spin and blame. I informed him totally about the situation and he comes back with NO apology at all! Nothing. Said he DID PUT SUNSCREEN on him and that it was the lifejacket he wore that rubbed it off. He then said immediately after that that I feed him too much fast food (which I VEHEMENTLY DO NOT)...he's all about the famous darth "spin and blame". He NEVER TAKES ACCOUNTABILITY FOR ANYTHING NEGATIVE...JUST DEFLECTS, DUCKS, AND THEN HURLS BACK AT YA. VERY VERY TOXIC PERSON. But he was nice? wierdly nice athough I think he totally knew I was right.

I told him how ds was sick, could NOT wear any shirt last night due to the extreme pain, fever, vomiting, and the like...he was blissfully nonchalant about it all.

Belle, let's get with the blowtorch. I'm ready girl! Time for an ol' fashioned memorial day cookout with the dumbarses! MYYYYY way that is.