Should he call FOW and tell her NC or should we do a letter?
H and I just went through the same thing not long ago after almost 6 years of NC. I had been friends with this OW before d-day. We did send an NC letter long ago and OW did try and contact ME a few more times. I ignored her.
But a couple of months ago we started getting some strange calls at all hours of the day and night. It smelled like OW to me. Then one day when I came home from work H asked me to listen to a message that had ben left while he was out. It was the OW in a state of panic. She HAD TO speak with ME. She asked I not call her back, rather she would call me.
H and I discussed it and waited for the call which never came. She never called back. However had she called we had BOTH had decided that no matter who answered the phone, H or myself we would say "Sorry....we have no interest in talking to you" Click.
I figure she didn`t call back because she`s in the pokey...the last time she pulled this type of stunt (several years ago) she was on her way to jail. I figure it`s the same scenario this time too.
My advice to you is to ignore this. She may never call back. After 6 years of NC a letter/phone call to he may give this situation more importance than it merits. If she does call back you have to POJA a response with your H. Something short, sweet and to the point. You don`t to make too big a deal out of this unless your radar is detecting something.
You gave your H a great big kiss for telling you immediately about the call right? He did the right thing.
I would not worry too much about this.