Has anyone marraige on the board been restored, how long did it take, did you go thru this landmine and he/she suddenly woke up and came home? any encouragement? or do i just say forget it - just divorce and be miserable the rest of my life? is there a happy ending to all this?

Hi Winter:

My M is definitely recovered.

However, working the MB Plans is necessary.

Did you ever become committed to doing this?

I remember you, Winter.

You were wanting to do it your own way, right?

I spent a lot of time sharing with you, didn't I?

The answers remain the same, Winter.

There's a good chance of Marital Recovery if you work these PLANS.

Winter...

I don't have a lot of time to post right now...but YES, there are many marriages that have been restored here...Mr. W and I both post here and we most definitely KNOW that we are a MB success story...Mimi is 100% right though, you have to work the program...You get out of it what you put into it...We use MB principles in our marriage now and will continue do so til death do us part, because they work...

Winter, I'm not familiar with your story, but are both you and your spouse on board with the MB program?

Mrs. W

Yes Mimi - I remember you too. I did try the program- and I guess I didnt do it right because my marraige is not restored.
So are you willing to help me from the beginning or do i need to just stay away?

Yes.

4 years (2 years short of the expected 6 years).

I'm sure you don't need to "stay away". Mimi has the patience of Job and will be back to assist you. It is a holiday weekend so don't take a lack of responses personally. I anticipate it being very slow around here until next Tuesday.

That Mrs. W rocks.

Mr. W

I consider my husband and my marriage restored.

I know now that one cannot take their marriage for granted, ever, and I will spend the rest of my life working on my marriage and myself.

A good marriage takes active work, open mind, boundries, and a commitment from both partners to work the problems through.

What is left after the devasation of the EA is a desire from both my husband and I to never become the source of pain to each other and a firm committment to protect each other's feelings.

I have walked away with a new appreciation for my husband, and the knowledge that it is never healthy to base your whole life on the love of one person.

Sincerely,
k.d.'s heartbreak

Thanks... I dont think i understand exactly what to do in Plan A.

Winterkisses,

Plan A is all about making an investment in creating a better you, eliminating all those lovebusters acts and breaking up the affair.

Breaking up the affair uses the tool of exposure.

Exposure of the affair to the light of day that is pre-planned, hopefully with one of the experts here input and help.

MelodyLane is a great at helping to create a plan of exposure.

Exposure is meant to be done without pre-warning the infidels of doing this and done in one complete swoop.

Giving the WS or the OP warning of pending exposure takes away the effectiveness of this and allows the parties to put a spin on the facts, so you, the bs, appear to be crazy and paranoid.

Now improving yourself and your situation is important, not only for the sake of attracting your ws back, but to help you to survive and enjoy life again, with or without your spouse.

Plan A includes:

Making your home a warm and inviting place to come home to.

Improving your self image.

Learning to be a reasonable person that any spouse would want to come home to.

Eliminating your lovebusting habits that include:

Accusations or Emotional Outbursts

Whining

Crying

Clinging behavior

Arguementive behavior

There is links here on mb that will explain Plan A


Keep on posting,

Hang in there,

Sincerely,
k.d.'s heartbreak

Yes, WK...listen to these wise posters...you can do it, if you choose.

LA

I will listen and do

SURE..I'll help you...

Busy right now, though...

I was hoping that you would be willing to try again...

I will be checking on you....

I'll listen too

What exactly has been happening?

Did your H return home?