now it seems every single little thing he does sets me off.

or that could be the fact I have a HUUUUUGE CASE OF PMS....

or that he is an idiot?

I hate hearing his voice now. bleech.

just a vent. nothing life altering from this post. he just is the most irritating person in the world.

and like this morning? I am dropping ds off at his lakeside house...and he HAS TO WALK OUTSIDE to my car wearing no shirt and shorts...to try to "show off" his abs that he works like a racehorse on steriods to obtain.

it does NOTHING FOR ME...but it does piss me off. why? I hate womanizing men. and he's irritating.

did I say he irritates me?

from hearing him sound so fakely cheery at six am. from him bounding out of his house to get a teeny peach fix as if I WANT HIM TO COME OUTSIDE and have contact...I do not! I don't! he is irritating.

I especially hate his new gate around his home. and he has an ugly overdone gaudy mailbox too. who needs a giant iron fence with a keypad around their house? oh! I know! Rockstar Darth does! did I mention he has installed a panic room also in the house? maybe it's for when his other women come calling and he gets a wee bit afraid. or his wee gets afraid.

CAN YOU TELL I HAVE PMS? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Pms...IT....IS.....SOOOOOO.....BAD.....!!!!!

HA!!! That cracked me up. Think he has a bunch of Viagra stocked in there??

Ha! Here's one for you... Wednesday night, WH had DD for the evening. He asked if he could drop her off at my dance class at 8:45 instead of keeping her until 10. When I asked him why, he said, "Well, I worked all day and I've been working out in the yard. I'm tired." Hmmm... he's too tired to sit there at home when she's asleep??

When I got to class, they were waiting on a bench out front. I could hear her screaming before I even turned the corner of the building.

Never mind - it wasn't helpful

sorry sadmommy....maybe you should invite the WS to WATCH your bellydancing class...so he can sweat a little outside and then sadly go back to the OW and remember his ever so hot wifey! Let the man babysit some more!

I remember him saying you didn't do stuff....well let the man watch that class! I'd bet a million bucks the ow doesn't do bellydancing! maybe I should start? lmao.

Oh incidentally....shortly before the last d day, I found a stash of viagra in WH's former over the top suv (won't say what it was.)...being I am in healthcare, and knowing his partying ways, I suspected he was taking it and combining it w/something else...but never knew what.

found out last summer. apparantly the wistress, knows what he does w/viagra. She said that "during his partying days" (as if she knows...and was when HE WAS CHEATING ON ME...didn't do that stuff when he was a properly married man back when) he combined it w/x? I was flabbergasted! this is a man who barely drank at all in front of me unless it was either a red stripe beer or a nice glass of wine with dinner. When they go wayward...they go to ****** in a handbasket imho.

No more PMS. Just crampy girl carrying pager on call trying to juggle all this weekend/keeping ds happy/dealing with problems with air conditioning system/praying I don't get called in.....

What is with me????everytime I have something to fix I say something angry....and say "I hate you Darth!"...my ds thinks I totally have it in for his favorite star wars villain or something. he does NOT know I call his dad Darth. He must think I'm nuts. Sometimes when I have to speak to him, I will mutter before answering the cell, "Gosh darn it. I swear I hate you Darth. Darth why don't you just go to a galaxy far far away and take your bimbo sith with you?" My son just laughs. He has no idea. I swear, one day when he's 18, he's gonna ask, "mom, why is it you hate darth vader? IT'S JUST A MOVIE."

Oh, peach, methinks you might need to adjust that habit. No more saying some of that stuff in front of son. Trust me, one day he is gonna catch you at it. It's not helping you turn loose of this anger.

pms is easing up a bit.

twharted getting called in two times now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

but have to go in at 8 am tomorrow <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

but only for 2 hours so maybe it's good ????

cindy, ds does NOT know who darth is at all. he has no clue...trust me. and the outbreaks are rare. I don't daily shake my fist and curse the king of the sith. But will watch it. After all, wouldn't want ds accidentally calling his dad "darth" one day.

but my son can call me princess leia any day of the week <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

had a short outbreak of it yesterday whwen I picked up ds...was doing the "a pox on you darth " thing when I pulled into his driveway (ds NOT in car)...the darn security fence/gate thing he put up around his house was NOT working right...darn gate closed me in and the codes didn't work to get out either. almost made me late for work.

All that stuff needs to stay away from your son. I speak from experience. If he know his dad's actions upset you, that's one thing. To hear you call his father darth is not appropriate.

Been there - done a lot of the same stuff you are doing. I finally learned to go to my room and shut the door before I said that stuff.

One thing I never did was allow x in my house after he left unless I invited him in. Just made sure he knew he was not invited. To this day, he hardly ever comes in even when I invite him. That's fairly ok w/ me.

On days I really don't want to see his fat ugly face when he returns the children, I unlock the front doors. Leave the door standing open and the storm door closed. I'll be in the kitchen doing something so I can hear the children at the door. When they get to the door, I yell that I am in the kitchen and that they can just come on it. Helps to be baking or washing dishes or something - just for their sake.

On the same principle, your son could probably answer the door and let you know he is headed out.

I want to know why x insists on walking our 15 & 13 year olds to the door at my house. I guess that is his own thing.

Luckily Cindy we don't do many exchanges here anymore. Tonight we did it inbetween our two homes. Non drama totally.

I didn't say "darth" the whole day! doin' better. but I do mutter it under my breath and think it ...nobody hears or sees it though.

tonight when bf called, we talked about it...he actually said , "well peach, I sure hope that Darth remembers how to use sunscreen and how to place it on ds tomorrow since ds is at lakehouse for part of the day. It bothers me that he just simply couldn't remember to put it on. That dumbfounds me! What kind of man or woman can't remember to put suncreen on a fair skinned child?" Even HE called the xh Darth.

that's my only concern. That ds is able to be outside all day and NOT have a mild ashtma flare up..he had one today but took his singulair and did fine. He has it with him and I shall call X tomorrow and remind him to give it to ds...and remind him to use spf 30 plus on him too.

When my exh and I were newly separated and I was living with a friend, we referred to him as Cheez-Whiz, thinking we were so clever, that the kiddos would never figure it out. Flash forward 12 YEARS. My now 16dd asked me, "Who was Cheez Whiz, you know, when I was little?" Was it dad?"

MOM (me): Uh-uh, cough, sputter, ahem, "No, why would you think that?"

Kids are more clever than they let on. Usually they are thinking things long before they figure it out. Just be careful.