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we read here & tried to talk things out..i foregot about the bold faced lies that SHE tells. well thats what became of our come clean, & tell all talk more lies- (see previous post on lies)
some one PLEASE walk me through PLAN- A
cause I have made a mess trying to trust her.. Dang , a person should know better!!
where do I start ?
This can't happen to me!!
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I am in a plan a right now you can look at my post and see some of the ideas that have been presented.
You start with realization that the alien is in your S, so that there is nothing you should trust.
You should also start a journal - actually two journals one for you, your feelings, your thoughts your actions. Second journal is for the lies, the evidence, the items you will use to verify truth from lies.
Fill out the EN questionaire, both for you and your spouse
Don't LB, read the basic concepts
You need to open up and spell out the whole story what she is doing AND what you have done or doing... give us an idea where you are and why
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0403, you should NOT trust her unless she is trustworthy. It would be insane to trust an untrustworthy person. Trust has to be EARNED; it is not an entitlement.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Dear 0403 -- Nowhere in Harley's literature on Plan A does it say it is to trust your spouse. Plan A is about meeting her emotional needs and not love bust.
Re-read the articles here and just expect that for now, you won't get the truth from her. Focus on meeting her needs, without lovebusting. Just assume you're not getting the truth now, but try to meet her needs anyway. Fair? Nope. But that's how this works at this stage.
Hang in there!
Shellybird
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Hey, great summary Vikingruler...really well put.
I only want to add that Plan A is about truth...yours, hers and exposure. Living in truth.
Don't forget the exposure.
LA
Last edited by LovingAnyway; 05/27/06 10:08 PM.
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0403 I am still very new here but keep posting and giving what you can give on information on the situation
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