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WH is living with OW. Won't give her up. 17 years younger than him.
Intercepted emails. Very sexual. Also sounds as if they are planning a future together.
WH hasn't talked D to me, I think he's waiting to get $$. OW has to get D too.
WH is somewwhat cordial. Came over yesterday to fix stuff around the house. Didn't talk at all about M. He told me awhile ago this was just a trial sep. for us.
Don't know where to go from here. Got kids, so plan B will be hard, not that he sees them much anyway.
I'm thinking maybe filing D will shock him into reality. Nothing else seems to work.
At his point I'm losing respect and love for him and don't know if I even want him back.
Guess I'm just confused.
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Hi Cat,
Have you exposed?
1. OW's husband
2. H's workplace
3. OW's workplace
4. etc....
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At his point I'm losing respect and love for him and don't know if I even want him back. Sorry I'm not fully up to speed on your sitch, but have you done any Plan A stuff? I ask because the above quote indicates you are headed to losing love for your WH. Which usually means Plan B is on the horizon. Jo
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I think I did plan A O.K Slipped up a few times with LB's but really focused on myself and getting me in order. Still some more work needs to be on me, but you are right. I have already lost love for WH. I really hate to even look at him knowing what he is doing (sex) to OW and how he is lying to me and the kids.
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Hi again Cat. I'm not sure of next steps for you, although I'm somewhat leaning towards Plan B. I'm thinking maybe filing D will shock him into reality. Nothing else seems to work. But one thing for sure, you don't want to file for divorce if you really don't mean it or intend to be divorced. Its not something you should use to try and shock a WS with, as it very well may backfire hon. Jo
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How long has the A been going on?
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Hi Cat,
To help others support you better, it would be beneficial for you to fill out a quick BIO that will appear at the bottom of each post.
To accomplish this, go to: [color:"purple"]My Home, Personal Info, BIO[/color]
Place a few summary lines of your sitch there.
Example:
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[color:"blue"]BS 29 (me)
WS 31
Married 10+ yrs
1 DS (5), 1 DD (2)
D Day 5-14-2006 (EA & PA)
Affair Duration - approx. 6 mos.
OW Single[/color]
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I know the A has been going on at least 5 mos., I'd bet it's probably more like 7-9 mos.
I can't put bio down. Afraid WH will snoop and identify me. Sorry!
I did post some facts in my earlier posts though.
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Bumping up.
Catgirl,
How are you, and how are things?
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Thanks for your concern. I'm the same.
Just getting so tired of waiting for WH to see the light. I'm sure he wants to be with her, from the emails I read, and is just keeping me on the side for whatever reason. I can't take the pain anymore.
I think the time has come for D. Some days I want it, some days I don't. Mostly don't want it cuz of the kids, don't want them to have to go through that, but he's never here for them anyway. He's too busy boinking OW!
I just don't know if I can ever see him, or feel for him the same way again, sexually etc. knowing what he did with her and what his plans are with her.
Going to see lawyer soon.
I'm losing hope and very sad.
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