CL...

Your Plan B is working...because your memories are sustaining your love...and you're protecting that love. Keep that thought closer than loss right now...because I believe it is temporary.

I believe sadness is a healing emotion...a good one...which signals you loss...of expectations, old beliefs...it is like the sound of resentment leaving...and the time it wasted while it was around in us...grieving is good because it gives us new ground to stand on...or shows us where we were all along.

Get into your own emotions...your WW, when she wakes up, will have all of these, intensely...and you'll know your way through.

You have the gift of your daughter, CL. There is the reward for your goal and your efforts...for being. Consequences for doing the best thing...and you're loving it...and you are sharing it...we are seeing it...in children, beauty walks and talks. We know.

LA

not too much to report here. I got the 1 phone call - with the i love you and care about you - and i love d and care about her message...i called her back like i reported - then didn't hear from her for another 4 days...then she called and said i should give her a call - did not ask about d at all. we still haven't spoken.

i heard from friends that she is telling coworkers she is "fighting" to see D - i have not seen the fight at all - i have not seen anything or heard anything - so this is pretty entertaining - I guess she is just telling tales - much as i expected she would.

i am just juggling work and child care right now - trying to stay as normal as possible...and trying to not run out of steam.

now i am more angry about the damage she has done to D and the heep of responsibility she walked away from...don't understand how anyone could do this to another person...not too caught up in the love aspect...i am way to busy and worn out to care...and am glad for that...

she just isn't the person i thought she was...no integrity or character...that is sad...

Have you been clear that she needs to ask to see your daughter, and who she needs to go through to do it? In other words -- did you send your Plan B letter?

Also, you might want to work on getting grounded and transforming your anger into compassion. It's hard work. It's worth it.

Journal all contact (and lack of contact between your WW and D) for your own protection. Very important to do this, especially if you expect a battle over custody/visitation.

Protect yourself!
SD