Hello, this is my first post..

I have been married to my husband for 5 years now. I moved from Canada to Finland to get married. I had a very hard time these years dealing with fitting into society and learning the language. I feel after 5 years the challenge has finally become a bit less for me. But now this new issue has popped up. I told my husband that I did not want children..I think he assumed I wanted them in the first place. He told me that he is now confused because he wanted a life with children not now but in the near future. I am 28 yrs old and he is 36 years old. Ever since I mentioned that, we have not been intimate. I feel that I am the bad person here that I am the guilty one. Even I am not sure about my mixed emotions with this child issue. I feel now I am NOT ready, plus also I may not want to have the child grow up in Finland --a very difficult place for me compared to multicultural Canada. We are planning to see a marriage counsellor. We are both sort of stuck. Confused and not sure if we are doing the right thing. I do not want to separate at this point. I want some advice...please..if anyone has some spare time...perhaps I can hear some advice?
Thank you in advance...

Holy Cow! You married, committed to your husband and even moved to another country, but never discussed having children? Not in the five years you've been married nor beforehand?

Wow. I am not usually at a loss for words, but this leaves me lost.

I really don't have any advice, but I would recommend that you post your question on the General Discussion II Forum. It gets a lot more action that this Divorcing Forum does. You'll get a lot more input over there.

Good luck, Hun.