I'm writing for some help in clearing my head so I can think straight . My wife has come to me recently and has said that she has never had a single life and would like to have one . This came after going with a new girlfriend who happens to be a lesbian, she is very quickly become close to this young lady and myself and her have very quickly become far apart although we both live in our home we are not sleeping in the same bed because she says that she loves me but is not in love with me. So she thinks that she needs time to see how she feels. We have had some problems before but have always seemed to work them out with talking , but I am very scared this time that I wont be able to come up for air . I have dissappointed her in the past so I am not innocent here but again we have worked things out b4. We have been together for over 4 years and Have a 1 yr old daughter. I do not want to lose my wife , she has always treated me wonderfully until the present , I pulling my hair out some one pls give me some advice.

Hi, Mike...Welcome to MarriageBuilders...

I think your post was lost over the holiday weekend (weekends are slow)...I hope you're still reading here.

There are a lot of people who can help you here...first thing I would advise is to move your post to Infidelity General Questions II forum...it gets the most traffic.

And this might be beneficial for you for other reasons...your wife gave you a red flag with the ILYBNILWY speech...and wanting to live a single life. Red flag for infidelity.

Also, you said you have disappointed her and are not innocent...if you mean being unfaithful, in either an emotional affair (EA) or physical one (PA), then this may well have influence on your current situation.

You can copy your post to the other forum and I'm sure you'll get responses.

Please take heart...I'm sorry you have to be here and I'm thrilled you are...this is where I saved my marriage...and many others.

You're not alone.

LA