My life has been a roller coaster with this d___ affair. DDay was about five weeks ago. H is in an apartment right now. We have three kids. He says he wants to work things out and we were doing just that for a solid month, spending very quality time together, so I thought, falling in love all over again. Then, about four days ago, he tells me that he needs to be "honest" and that he is still having feelings for the other girl. Said he wanted to have one last contact with her, to see if it's really over (?). Okay. So just before we go into our counselor, his phone rings, it's her. A brief call, something about pictures. Well, H pratically throws my head off his shoulder to grab the phone and talk to her. Got out of counseling meeting and pretty much decided it was over, because he still wants other woman. That was a Friday. Sunday came. He went to church alone, had a complete break down, came over here, cried, cried --- he misses his family, wants his life back. But later that evening, says he is still battling these feelings. So, please, someone tell me, what do I do? I don't want to be second best any more. I don't want to be the consolation prize. Help.

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Expose the affair.

RL:

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Often being busy, I find it difficult to look around for you and to put together the facts from different threads.

I would like to help you. I was like your husband for a long time. Can you tell us how long you have been married, and how was the marriage before the affair? What made him move out?
A little more background?