WH confronted 4/12/06 on PA-EA, after confronting OW, she did not know married, works with Husband at new job. A started Feb 06, I found MB immediatly and began working Plan A. H states sorry but he needs to think of her and how he hurt her and still contacts 2-4 times daily by cell, or on line. I watch carefully but say nothing. My parents,my children(30,27,25)know of A. His (12,7)do not. Married 2.5 years together 5. We have sex 4 times a week,(know he does not sleep with OW,as when he did could not get it up for me. never could do two women at same time. He now talks to me, calls says I love you blah blah.Spend alot of time together. I am locked into lease until Dec 06, my money. Also financially we cannot make it without each other equal monies. I am sick with disease which is progressing hospital ICU 3 times 1 month. Stress is hard. Please someone talk with me on how to go on......I am on anti-anxiety meds plus others. I work out, am fun, in great shape. I need to talk with someone who can help, can't afford Counseling at this pt. Please someone respond to help me through the day and night. (ps he has not spoken to his family in 13 years out of state, I have never met them.

Welcome to marriagebuilders. It is a great place to be under the circumstances.

Is the other woman married?

Have you exposed them at work?

no other woman is single and I confronted her first from his phone calls to her. She did not know he was married as he is in new contract to hire job as of oct of 05. A started Feb 06, his contract is up July, she has worked at company 21 years. I am medically retired and rely on his money and mine.She wants to marry him and says she loves hiim. I know he tells her the same to keep her going. He tells me he's working on us and we're ok hang in their he loves me. he is paying attention to me alot but lies lies lies..what to do next.

GS, in my signature block there is a link to a thread with pointers on how to organize a plan to get a marriage back on track. I think it would help you get a feel for what one must do to recover from an adultery. Click on the link and then come back and ask questions.

GS, we're all sorry to see you here on MB because of the reason you've come, but all of us out here have suffered through an adultery in our marriages. We know what you're going through because we've been there too. We've come out the other side of it, whole and sane and you can too. Hang in there, okay?