H came over tonight ot help me move stuff in the house. He's living in an apartment while we try and work things out. Okay, so after dinner, I start talking about our situation, hammering about what he wants to do, when he wants to do it. Are we together? Or not? What am I doing? Can't keep my life on hold forever until you decide!!! Stuff like that. Then he gets really frustrated, almost leaves. I talk him into staying.

Am I supposed to just shut up? What do I do? He's working through his feelings for the girl, with whom he has had not contact for four weeks (with the exception of a quick call, I was there). Oh, and in the call, he said he needed to talk to her. She said, sometime soon. I have since told H that he CAN'T have contact with her. No no no. He has so far, agreed. Anyway, I feel like I'm pushing him away, but something eats at me, and I just start in. But it's just because I really do want to know what I'm doing here. Someone ... please help. Explain this Plan A to me. (carrot and a stick???)

RT - I KNOW it's hard to do this - slow.......down.

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