My wife was on a path to destruction. She was convicted of stealing from her Charity job. Had an afair with a nother man and got pregnet and had ababy and let me beleive it was mine. My daughter told me of what she thought was an afair with another man on 2/18 and we moved out on 2/19/06. She is staying in the house with the OM's child and my daughter has decided to stay over there quit a bit. I have temp custoty of them (son and daughter)until the divorce hearing.

We have started to see each other again. She has stopped all contact with the other man as far as I can tell. He live in another state(thank god). We are seeing a marriage counselor together once a week. Things seem to be going slow, but not much our can due in a hour.

She has yet to tell me why and any details about what happened and she says that I am not ready to listen without getting pissed off(I think I will be no matter when).

I have had to make the insurance and payments on the house, and her car (credit score). I even had to pay part of the electric to keep it on for her and the kids when they do over there. Plus her half of the kids expences are up to $500. She has a job but the money she makes, she will never be able to survive.

Our house is small 900 sq. ft. and is two bed room and I have two kids with her and now the baby and two medium dogs too.

I know I made mistakes, but I didn't do what she did. I still love her and the baby as I raised it as my own for 7 months after it was born.

On to the questions:
1) I am not sure of what the deal is with the father of the baby and how to ask that question.
2) The divorce court date is June 12. Should I pospone it, get a seperation for now and wait to see what happens between us or go on with it?
3) should I move back in the house, even though my family will be mad for me being stupid in their eyes(living with mom now)?
4) she is looking for a house to move into after the divorce and is trying to get assistance with the rent from the state. Should I let her move out?

If you need more info I can give it.

Postpone the divorce, and get a separation for now.

You can still save your marriage, but need to see if your wife will work on the marriage.

As far as the baby, please post on the pregnancy and other child board here. They are the experts and have been through it, and know the answers.