WK --

Plan B will help you see things without the emotional glaze. The tears, his pleading, his sorrow ... but he could end all this suffering in one short hour.

All you have asked him to do is end contact with OW/OWs.

It's really not that hard. And it's very reasonable.

(I'm glad you cut out #3 in PBL -- you aren't even asking him to come up with any kind of plan. Just end contact. It makes it soooo simple.)

he just called and left a message and said he is going to call me back at 2. He wants to let me know about the plans for the graduation and the boys haircut.
Do i talk to him or not?

don't talk to him.. can your "contact person" call him, or if it's for the boys graduation, maybe they can..

The boys can call him and make arrangements.

WK, if you really want the benefits of Plan B -- these kinds of things are so minor and routine that you shouldn't even be asking about "should I talk to him?"

Each contact you have with him, from now on, undermines everything you have said in your letter. He will know he can get around you, and cake-eat.

Let it roll over to voicemail. Screen all calls. He's lazy, and he's testing you. He knows what he has to do.

your right... My son will give him the details and time. ok
stay- strong.

BTW, make sure that he doesn't sit with you or try to get to you at the graduation. Crowd people around you or sit in a place where you are sure that he cannot see you.

REMEMBER DARK..LIGHTS OUT!!!

Go with a family friend -- or several family friends -- and their kids.

winter how goes it?? update us honey..Hang in there and remain strong

Im ok im still in school at nite, I came home last night after school and I flopped down on the couch with a headache and my youngest son brought me a bowl of chicken soup he heated for me in the microwave...... He said I waited for you mom and I love you- goodnight.
The graduation is for my oldest son from grammer school so he's excited. He wants to wear a white suit - he said he wants to stand out.....yeah.....I dont think im going to go for the second half of the summer for school- Im going to be home after work and be with them. Couldnt afford to send them to camp this year- first time ever but theres always next year..... I did buy a journal so i can write down my thoughts and things - im hoping my mind will let me rest.
I will watch where I sit for the graduation and my son wants to have a party/bar-b-que for the saturday after so ill try to get that together maybe at my grandmothers or at my sisters. That will really have crowd control.
Im taking it one day at a time. I took the long way to work this morning just to look at the trees and hear some silence for a moment.

good for you--a journal is a good idea, it allows you to get the thoughts out of your head and on paper.DD and I did the same, it does help you clear out the crap, that just keeps rolling around, and allows you to renew yourself and to see how far you've come.
Nothing wrong with a long drive, and good for your son to help out his tired mom.
keep smiling, it does help

GOOD FOR YOU, Winter!!

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