Hi All! Things have actually been going pretty good as we have been taking MB advice and it works. Just starting to get an inkling of trust for SO after suspecting an affair - everything has come up accountable for the last month, and then today....

He calls me at 11:17 a.m. to tell me he will be leaving the job soon and would I please take paychecks back to the job - I was glad to help out.

I missed his call at 12:20 p.m. but called him back at 12:30 p.m. - he wondered if I had left yet, he was just leaving the job and would probably beat me home.

So I deliver the checks, and come back home. He tells me that he just got home that he stopped and had lunch on the way. All fine and good - good for him - he doesn't get opportunity to do that very often. While he is in the shower getting ready for a 3:00 p.m. appt. I look in his wallet for his receipt (I am still snooping for a suspected affair). The time on the receipt is 11:50 a.m. - that's a punch to the gut but my head tells me that "their clock could be off on their machine". He used a credit card, and fortunately he used one that i have online access to - I called the credit card company to get the time and it was 3:03 p.m. Eastern - well we are on Pacific so thats 12:03 p.m. Funny, he called me at 12:20 to tell me he was "just" leaving the job.

Well I had to vent somewhere because I can't bring this up today with him, I have to add it to my collection of "overwhelming evidence". I sure would like to punch him in the gut so it feels like mine.

Thanks for letting me vent!

Could be a white lie, and he went to check out motorcycles at the Harley shop (for example). I am a guilty 'white liar' to my wife at times.

On the other hand, it could be that he's hiding something worse. Hard to tell. Are you gonna ask him about it?

Could it be miss communication - I wouldn't want you to start reacting to things... what if he ate after the 11:17 call and didn't mention at 12:30 he had already ate and when he said he stoped and had lunch he didn't mean after the 12:30 call but actually after the 11:17 call?

At least you know and your right snooping is still valid until you don't do it anymore

He told me at 12:30 that he was leaving the job and was going to get lunch. Even if he paid before he got his food (it could happen) he lied.

I have caught him in a number of other lies in the last 6 months via withholding information. He also has had phone contact with a girl behind my back who he swears is an old friend. Very intentionally behind my back although he won't admit that.

I would like to ask him about it but I am gathering information to see if he is indeed having an affair. So I can't say anything or I would blow my case unfortunately. Thats why I needed to vent here! I would say today's lie sure doesn't help that cause. Thank you for your ideas.

half...at this point in my life...my mantra is:

If it lloks like crap; if it sounds like crap; if it smells like crap..

IT'S CRAP!!!!!

Keep looking for proof....you have a reason to be suspicious..but no proof...be wary and careful