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Pep, I also discovered I have a half-brother last year who lives in Norway. Seems my dad was a naughty boy in the merchant navy before he got married. I completely understand how amazing that news was for you.
And the other news is pretty good too!
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Congrats, Pep!
Very nice.
Stretch it out over the weekend!
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BIG THUMBS UP FROM TEXAS! Way to go, chica! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Pep, I also discovered I have a half-brother last year who lives in Norway. Seems my dad was a naughty boy in the merchant navy before he got married. I completely understand how amazing that news was for you.
And the other news is pretty good too! my 1/2 brother was a WWII baby my dad his mom married within a week he was shipped off when he returned to his wife she had an infant she told my dad "It's not yours." she was having an affair while dad was at sea no DNA in 1944 they annulled there is more to the story as it is just now being revealed to us but my sister saw him in person yesterday she said "Spitting image of Dad @ that age." He's 62! I may make this a screenplay! wowzer Pep
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not to mention I have 4 new nieces and nephews
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2 grand nieces and nephews
my son said .... after this sank in
"I guess we have more cousins now?"
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Wow, Pep. What a story. I am so happy for you to have had such an awesome day yesterday. Congrats
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My half-brother is 50 so he's my big brother. Also has a striking resemblance to my dad. I do worry though if there are a few other surprises around the world. My dad married late and he travelled the world before he settled down with his much younger wife (me mum). My parents knew about this son but didn't think we needed to know until he came and knocked on their door last year out of the blue. My mum has been quite 'strange' about it. Fears he might want a bit of the pie so to speak.
Do you hope to meet him soon?
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Yes I hope to meet him
I did consider "the pie" which is all included in the trust my parents set up before Mom died 2 years ago
it's not really an issue, I think
he's 62 he's got his own family & extended family his Mom is still alive, living in a nursing home in the state when he & his wife live (Susan, I spoke again with my sister late last nite & I asked her about his Mom)
1/2 brother's Mom revealed to him 10 years ago that she lied on the birth certificate lied to my Dad lied to the (then) OM whom she married then divorced
aren't the long-term consequences of infidelity simply amazing !!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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the person I MOST want to have a heart-to-heart talk with
my Daddy
I wonder how he feels finally knowing his son IS his son
after the long lie
I wonder how much it hurts knowing he missed out on having a relationahip with his son
must feel surreal
I will talk with him next week
driving there to visit
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I have so many questions, but want to respect your privacy...
I also have a half-brother I have never met. I don't even know if he knows I exist. Our shared birth father died several months after I was born... and my mother severed all relationship with his family when she met/married my (adoptive) daddy. And she threw away all pictures and anything else that was his...
sigh... anyway...
So, there's a 50-something year old man out there (unless he's passed already) who shares my blood.
I cannot imagine how it would be to have my questions answered... to meet someone who perhaps looks like my birth father (I only found out what HE - birth father - looked like last year. Long involved story, that one).
I am happy for you, and will follow this... it IS amazing.
ETA: He was married before my mom... and if there was any affair, it was between he and my mother... though she has never admitted to that. She rarely talks about him at all. Sorry to go on and on... this has triggered a renewed interest for me.
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am happy for you, and will follow this... it IS amazing. I hope Daddy is not going to suffer from this .... I am thinking ... he's got 4 other GRANDCHILDREN he has never met and 2 more GREAT grand kids as well I am thinking mostly about Dad today yesterday I was thinking mostly about myself !!! I spoke to my son yesterday ... who KNOWS he has many (maybe as many as 8) other siblings "out there" (besides his sister who we also adopted) I said maybe someday you might get to meet them too his response was "NO WAY" which tells me he is still angry at his birth mom but at age 20 .... he's got time to outgrow that well NBII since you are still alive & kicking ... you may some day get a call like the one I got yesterday I HAD done a feeble search for 1/2 bro a few years ago .... but I was using the wrong last name Pep
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Congrats! I'm so proud of you! I can just imagine the awesome feelings you are experiencing! Keep up the good work! Hurray, PEP!
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Pep...
Congratulations to you!!! I hope you got a shiny new tiara as part of that award...you know a girl can never have too many of those!
Thinking of your Dad and your new found brother...I'm so very sorry for the years that all of you missed out on...Infidelity has some really evil ramifications that's for sure...But what a blessing to have the opportunity to get to know each other now...Saying a prayer for all of you!
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I am thrilled for your most recent family enlargement, Pep.
I would imagine there are quite a few half siblings out there, thanks to our G.I.'s.
I have a half sister in germany.
My dad was stationed their in the korean war, and met a lady while still married to my mother in the states.
He promised the ow marriage and the picket fence.
She was pregnant when he left and came home to my mother.
The OW contacted his mother, my grandmother and asked what happened to my dad, she was waiting for him to fullfill the promise of marriage, as she was getting ready to have a child.
My dad apparently did not want to honor the committment to the OW and left the german woman there in Germany to shoulder the responsiblity and shame of having an out of wedlock child.
Two years later my mother and father had the first of three children.
My paternal grandmother kept in contact with this OW and her child.
On the death of my grandmother we found a scrapbook with little patches of cloth and pictures of my half-sister little dresses that she had worn growing up.
We were not allowed to know about my half-sister until many years later when I confronted my father about it, and then had an open discussion with my grandmother.
My sweet grandmother knowing that her legitimate grandchildren, (me and my sisters) knew about our 1/2 sister, and she then displayed all the pictures of our half sister including the one of her wedding pictures.
My aunts and grandmother had communicated with this half german sister over the years but never my father. They even went to Germany to visit my half-sister, her mother and her adopted father.
We have tried to communicate with her, but she didn't want anything to do with my sister's our myself, sadly.
Anyhow, Sorry to make this so long Pep.
I am so happy for you.
Thank you so much for sharing you joy in your well deserved award and finding the brother of long past.
Raising my glass to you! (Cheers, Pep)
Sincerely,
k.d.'s Heartbreak
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46 Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005 28 years of marriage DD 26, DS 24 O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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Hi there pep
I am so happy for you. You certainly deserve such blessings & more :-) Enjoy
I'm certain there will be more blessings awaiting someone like you who give so unconditionally to total strangers.
You came to my help in my darkest hours. You have been the beacon in the dark for me & so many others.
Thinking out loud, re half-siblings out there for many of us......... sure some half-siblings are GI products, others pre-marriage laisions.
Others could be from A during M but fact is many of our parents stayed together till death do us apart. The BS between our parents have been spared the hurt & agony of knowing any A. Ignorance is bliss?
But of course, for most of us here at MB, we dont have a choice, we have either suspected or already discovered A.
Anyway, enjoy your joy & may there be even more happiness for you & loved ones. endofworldnomore
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Just wanted to send congrats. Days like that don't come along very often. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Wow!
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Thank you all
this is an interesting thing this new old half sibling
I learned more about him
his 2 half-brothers both died he has no living siblings but for me and my younger brother which sort-a explains the recent events
my younger brother does not want to be bothered he's saying "and so what?"
I might be more sensitive to this because I know my 2 kids will likely do a sibling search one day
and really why not let one more human into your life
he seems like a very decent sincere man not looking for anything other than connectedness
connectedness ... I think that must be an EN
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and really why not let one more human into your life So true. We need all the friends/relatives we can get. my younger brother does not want to be bothered he's saying "and so what?" Could this be more of a guy reaction? Busy with his own life and career and marriage? He may come around and change his tune later.
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
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Could this be more of a guy reaction?
possibly
plus
I think he might be wary of comparisons ... I think this new man in the family touches his insecurities in ways we 2 sisters never could
Busy with his own life and career and marriage? He may come around and change his tune later.
[b]that's what Mr Pep said ... "Leave him alone. He's thinking." My SIL is badgering him to 'connect' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Other news ... We already had plans to drive up to check in on Dad this coming weekend ... Bro 2 is going to remain there, so we can meet. I meet him Friday.
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Let's hope I don't frighten him !
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Susan
and there's more
One of Mr Pep's cousins has 2 kids.
They recently 'disowned' their 22 year old son, who 'came out' to them.
We're going to invite him to take part of our family gathering whenever we are in town ....
We're just spreading out in all sorts of directions !
LOL
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