I have been married to my second husband for about a year now. He's my second husband, but was my first and only TRUE love. (We grew up together and were each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend). I married another man and he lived with another woman (but called her his common law wife), and we both had kids with our partners.
My marriage was miserable and I finally got the courage to end it after 20 years. He, on the other hand, loved his (common law) wife deeply and would never have left her. He has told me how good she was to him and how happy he was until she "lost it" after 6 years, got on drugs, cheated on him and then left him.
My problem is that I cannot get past his relationship with her. He never gives me any reason to think he still loves, her, but because I never stopped loving him, I just cannot fathom that he stopped loving her and could feel that way about me now.
It is possible to stop loving someone? There has been no contact between them for several years. He makes every effort to let me know I am his priority, so I kind of feel like I am being a little irrational. He has told me he feels like he's been given a second chance now, and is claiming what is rightfully his by marrying me. That is all well and good, but I can't stand the thought of being a substitute for somebody else. I cannot get this out of my head and it is driving me crazy and about to threaten our relationship.
If there are any men out there who have been hurt once, and are now happyily married and wouldn't go back if they could, i desparately need to hear from you.
