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Send me on your way,

I'm familiar with your story. To summarize, I'm the BS who went through Plan A, Plan B, false recovery and then Plan D. I'm now facing a situation that is somewhat similar to your situation (although there are key differences). It's very confusing to me, I don't know how to approach it, and it's complicated by a medical condition which explains much of my exHs bad behavior and for which he is now being treated.

If you have some time, I would like to hear how you approached your situation and how you decided to allow your ex back into your life, how you dealt with the anger & hurt that can be dug up when you think about it, why you didn't move on with someone who probably had a better track record in relationships, etc, etc.

I prefer to get your opinion because you've actually been there, and as is often said on these boards, you don't really know what you'd do until you are actually faced with a situation. If it's too personal and you choose not to respond, I understand.

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nts....drop me a line....

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confirm with me that you got it cause I will remove it shortly!!

very briefly ...how did I approach it? Even after everthing that happened I knew I still had feelings for my ex wife, even after rumors of an old affair surfaced. I tried to resolve myself to fact that someone I cared very deeply for did not feel the same as I did......

The anger and hurt was very hard to deal with and occasionaly rears its ugly head still.

Someone else...? I'm 42 years old now and was in my late 30's then. Anyone that you meet at that age has had "some issues", a divorce, failed relationships, etc. If they did not that would be even more scary! It is bizaro world out there in the dating world...When XW was really showing interest I WAS INVOLVED with someone else. I was quite confused and simply put broke it off very abruptly because I would not subject my gf to "my mess"...it was the most compulsive thing I ever did...and if you knew me...I have done some very stupid things in my life on a whim...

like join the Marine Corps at 19 because my gf at the time told me I "did not have the balls to join the air force"!!

Look..everything here is personal!! We share the most painful experiences of our lives here...but give me details...read my story..and other links within it...it does address some issues...

Last edited by Send me on my way; 06/05/06 07:43 PM.

Me BS - 44
FWW- 42
EA for 4 years with fellow employee
became PA in Jan 04 - I knew of this one.
Seperated/ Divorced July 03
2 sons 14 & 12
D Day -6/26/04- PA in 1998 for about 1 year- I had NO idea.
recovery and reconciliation began 6/27/04

Remarried 2/18/06

My story?? Click below.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=129980&Number=1575914
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got it - thanks!!!


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