Here's my issue-
3 years ago I found out my H had been secretly talking to his exgirlfriend who was recently divorced. They had remained friends after their breakup, and throughout her M, but had kinda lost touch over the years due to her H not being ok with them talking, etc. SHe contacted him after her divorce. We were only dating at the time, and he actually told me she had called him. He even gave me the impression that she was interested in getting back together. He told me he was much more interested in pursuing our relationship, and that I had nothing to worry about.
Fast forward a year. We are living together, and his cell phone bills are out higher than normal. Long story short- I found out they had been talking like every other day for who knows how long. I confronted him, he refused to stop-telling me they were just friends, I was being insecure, he had been friends with her for 15 years, yada yada...I told him me or her. He promised and he lied. It was a vicious cycle. He would promise to stop- Get caught, promise again..... It finally stopped after the 3rd time he got caught, (This time with a calling card-he got smart and quit calling her on his cell phone)
It has been 3 years, and 2 weeks ago I found a different calling card. I called it and the last call was to her, but it was 1 1/2 years ago. We have been working hard on our M over the past 3 months, so I really hated to drudge up something from that long ago right now. Anyway- I was cleaning out his truck today, and found a phone number for a girl he had a 2 year affair with(she was married, I had not even met him yet) I asked him about it and he sweared he had not talked to her since we have been M (2 years) We have been living together for 4, and he admitted he talked to her since we have been living together, but not since we have been M.
Now- my ?? is- how do I handle this? I really do not trust his word, but how do I prove otherwise? We have been on the uphill of a very bad time in our R, and I would hate to drudge all this up if he is in fact being honest(which due to his history of lies is hard for me to accept)
These girls both live out of state- and I know there no PA, but the first was without any doubt an EA. I would appreciate any advice on where to go from here. Also- if anyone else has been through similar situations- how did you handle it. He still refuses to call the first sich an EA.
I feel like I am being naive', but I also have no proof to confront him with........