Thanks for the replies 3 amigos. Counseling is out of the question for the H. <p>[This message has been edited by ruby (edited October 04, 1999).]

Ruby,<P>Sounds like your h. is confused. Also, like he doesn't want to lose you-seeing he doen't want you to leave.<P>Could he be depressed? Depression makes us feel numb. We see everything in the light of the depression which is negative.<P>Wish I could be of more help. Best wishes

Ruby, roaming rarely has do do with the betrayed. It has everything to do with him. Why he would do it? He has that answer. She probably fed his ego and he attributed ideal to her that may or may not be there. It looks like you have headed off a disaster but don't rest here. Now you need to get in counselling with him to find out why this happend and what need to take place to keep it from happening again.

I agree 100% with fighter...<P>You did a brave thing to call the woman with your H right there - pretty impressive!<P>------------------<BR>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<BR>

The H is going into the city where this woman lives today. Possibly spending the night. I hope he comes home. The H says he wants to work on things in our Marriage....but his lack of action say otherwise. New Beginnings...like you, I just want to hear my H say He loves me. When we go to bed and when he leaves for work. Especially right now where I feel most vulnerable. I left a sweet card expressing for him to bare with me...and to be loving to me. He didnt even acknowledge the card..I had to...That hurts alittle...but I know that right now I am ULTRA SENSITIVE. I hate being made to feel 2 and 3 on his list of priorities. I'm so melancholy. No...Im lying..I'm pissed off. I feel that even though he didnt f#$k her, he still betrayed our vows. He's the one who mucked up...but I'm the one who seems to be trying to make things better. Why cant he see that he is denying me a safe place...his heart?<p>[This message has been edited by ruby (edited October 05, 1999).]