my wife of 7 years has found another person she is interested in! we are trying to decide if we will stay together! we have a 3 year old child! we have both made mistakes and we both admit it! i senced things were wrong and after trying to find em out to no avail i began to shut down well it turns out everything i had suspected and asked her about was true! we talked i asked for a second chance for me and for our family! she says she loves me but cant forget this guy! she doesnt love him but she sees something she says she knows what shes doing is wrong but this doesnt seem to affect her i have made things clear exactly how i feel and am thinking now that ive talked and shes listened ill stop talking and just try to enjoy her till she decides! is this the right move? i love her i love my family and wish to keep it! willing to take responces here am i handleing things well? is there things i can do to further help the situation? man am i lost

Hi there.

You have posted this in an area of the forum that doesn't get much traffic...I'd suggest you copy your post, and re-post it under the "General Questions" area of the "Infidelity" part of the board. Many people there have/are survived a spouse's affair, and can help you.

Meanwhile, if you have not read the articles here on surviving an affair: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5525_qa.html

Good luck!

HI I understand. My H led me on for awhile not lettign me know when I ask specifically if their was an affair going on? I came to MB for help. It sounds like your wife is in a fog and you need to start Plan A. Get surviving an Affair by Harley and start reading! Also try to post on the gen Q area in infedelity like KAm said.