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#1675346 06/06/06 12:55 PM
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my wife of 7 years has found another person she is interested in! we are trying to decide if we will stay together! we have a 3 year old child! we have both made mistakes and we both admit it! i senced things were wrong and after trying to find em out to no avail i began to shut down well it turns out everything i had suspected and asked her about was true! we talked i asked for a second chance for me and for our family! she says she loves me but cant forget this guy! she doesnt love him but she sees something she says she knows what shes doing is wrong but this doesnt seem to affect her i have made things clear exactly how i feel and am thinking now that ive talked and shes listened ill stop talking and just try to enjoy her till she decides! is this the right move? i love her i love my family and wish to keep it! willing to take responces here am i handleing things well? is there things i can do to further help the situation? man am i lost

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Nope. What you're doing right now is not the right thing. When did something bad ever get better just by sitting and watching it?

In my signature block, there is a link to a thread discussing how to organize a marital recovery plan. If you're lost, that's why the thread was started. It'll help you see where you are and where you need to go.

I suggest you take a moment to read that and then come back with lots more information than you've given. It'll make a difference as people out here give you pointers on how and what to do next. Some necessary details include whether it's a workplace affair and/or how they met, whether the other man is married or not, church membership, how long it's been going on, whether it's an emotional adultery or physical, etc., etc. When in doubt include more detail rather than less. You're anonymous out here. Use that status to your advantage.

Folks here at MB have already gone through an infidelity in their marriages so they know exactly what you're feeling right now. MB posters will be your support group as you go through this. Sorry you're here, Nate, because we all know the pain you're going through, but you did come to the right place. Welcome.

Longhorn #1675348 06/06/06 03:04 PM
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Welcome, given the situation, we're glad to have you! Read. read, read, we're all here to help!

Keep your head up, you can do this! God does not gives us what we can not handle!


A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle

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