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I think this... I was thinking that I am going to send him a text msg. letting him know I read the letter but I need some time to think. is rather good keep it non-emotional
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... and him KEEPING the appointment is required to continue the reconciliation discussion That's a really good idea, Pep. WAT ----------------- All fossils are transitional.
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Yes U M pep!
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5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
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sometimes this place seems awfully like a war room... doesn't it?
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Make your appointment first ... then schedule WH's for a date following yours ... Yes. This is EXACTLY what I did. I learned the hard way trying to do it on my own. If you ask him, Steve will tell you EXACTLY what to say to your WH. Get your pen out and ready!!!
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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I sent him the text and he is doing really good at respecting my plan B. He did not respond and I saw him at work and he kept his distance from me and did not try to have any interaction with me.
I tried to set up my appt. with SH but the office had already closed so I will have to try again in the morning.
I'm still in shock and waiting for him to say, oops, scratch that I changed my mind!!!
Eventhough ya'll told me plan B was the best thing to do, I still had doubts. But here I am, exactly one week later. Another reason I am terrified.
None are more unjust in their judgments of others than those who have a high opinion of themselves.
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You are doing great! Sit tight and stay dark tonight til you make the appts you gave him a reasonable response. How long has he had his own apt?
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"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
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He has had his apt. for almost 8 months.
It's weird, I thought I would want to talk to him right away but I am not ready to talk to him yet. I'm not ready to let go of plan B quite yet.
I guess I found the freedom from the rollercoaster nicer than I expected and I'm not sure I want back on it this quickly. It may be a different rollercoaster called recovery but it's still a rollercoaster all the same.
I know I want my H back and I want my marriage I just wasn't expecting results this fast. I'm happy that they came but really, really scared. I can't wait to talk to SH and see what he has to say.
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What happened to the scared BW named Daze?
What's that you say ??? She found her power switch and now shines by her own light??
Really?
[color:"purple"]K E W L [/color]
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What happened to the scared BW named Daze?
What's that you say ??? She found her power switch and now shines by her own light??
Really?
[color:"purple"]K E W L [/color] I am very proud of myself. I found a strength I forgot I had. That trip alone to Arkansas was very empowering, it allowed me to find myself again.
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well guess what?
when the BS stops looking like a fightened mouse and more like a lioness ... the WS starts sniffing around and becomes interested.... and if they do not... who wants them anyway ???
BWhaaaaaaaaa
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Too bad it took sooooooooooooooo long for the lioness to come out!!!!!
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I know I want my H back and I want my marriage I just wasn't expecting results this fast. I'm happy that they came but really, really scared. I'll say that this is because you're really, really smart. Walk tall, Lady. WAT
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Did you get an appt w/ SH? Did you respond any further to WH?
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D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
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Recovery finally began Jan 2007
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No other responses to WH, I don't want to break plan B until I talk to SH. I got an appt. for tomorrow at 10:30am CST. I did check his myspace acct. and he changed his background music to an old love song by Brian McKnight, here are the lyrics below. I would hope that they are directed to me. He also took a girl off of there that I disliked and he had kept their email friendship from me b/c he knew I didn't like her. She used to work with us and I thought she flirted a little too much with my H. Right after all of this came out I found out they had remained in contact through email, I still have questions that there wasn't more going on there.
Anytime Brian McKnight lyrics
Artist: Brian McKnight
Album: Anytime
Year: 1997
Title: Anytime
I can't remember why we fell apart
From something that was so meant to be, yeah
Forever was the promise in our hearts
Now, more and more I wonder where you are
[Chorus]
Do I ever cross your mind, anytime
Do you ever wake up reaching out for me
Do I ever cross your mind anytime
I miss you
Still have your picture in a frame
Hear your footsteps down the hall
I swear I hear your voice, driving me insane
How I wish that you would call
To say
[Chorus]
I miss you
I miss you
(No more) loneliness and heartache
(No more) crying myself to sleep
(Don't want no more) wondering about tomorrow
Won't you come back to me
Come back to me, oh
[Chorus]
[Chorus]
I miss you
I miss you
I miss you
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Sounds like regrets of a WS. I don't think I know that song. Make sure you let us know how it goes w/ SH! Have you talked w/ him before? Make sure you have a pencil and paper.
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together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
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" [color:"red"] I got an appt. for tomorrow at 10:30am CST. [/color] " [color:"purple"] keep us posted after your appointment <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Pep [/color]
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I've had several sessions with SH but had to stop for awhile due to finances. I'm hoping I can get WH to atleast have 1 session with SH either alone or together. He has talked to him 1 time already but he was deep in the fog.
I'll post as soon as I can after I talk to SH.
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WELL....How did it go?? (the session w/ SH)
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together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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