I've been posting here a few times in the past. For the past seven months my WW has shown NO signs of trying to work on our marriage. If anything, she has showed me through my snooping and suspicians that she is still in the A...but I never got the proof I needed until very recently, when I caught OM in our house hiding. Still, WW was able to come up with excuses as to why he was there. I then exposed (albeit rather late in the game) to her parents and mine. That was 2 weeks ago. Mind you for the past month or so, all WW has been talking about is divorce. Now she is sure of herself and plans on filing this week. I've been doing plan A as best I can for the past several months, and quite frankly, I'm burned out. I'm sick of her putting me and my family down, and am pretty much to the point of calling it quits. Even my close friends think it is long overdue. If anyone has been in a similar situation, I welcome any kind of advice you may have.

Well you have to tell us her excuse! The OM was HIDING in the house, and the reason was.............

I'm kidding, but am interested. I keep a list of ridiculous excuses and reasoning.

I think it will soon be time to go to Plan B.

By the way, is the OM married?

Ha ha....I'll tell ya. Supposedly she had him over to dig for a bin of clothes for her that we had stuck in a closet downstairs. She needed something for a business trip. She couldn't get at it, and blamed me for not getting it for her. So she called upon her "friend" to help out. Hmmm....oh yeah, she was dressed in her night shirt, he had his cell phone charging on the night stand on my side of the bed and this was at 6am.

How do I implement anything if she files though?...Like I said, I'm just about drained from trying myself.

Oops....forgot to mention OM IS married. But OMW will not return calls. According to WW, OMW thinks i'm psycho....I think she is just afraid to face anything.

She's probably not afraid to face it - the OM has most likely painted you as a nut case. That is what they usually do.

I think I would write her a letter and let her know that her husband was hiding in your house with your wife in her nightie, and give her the time and date.

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Hiker, that's it.....what do I want?

I don't know to be honest. You can only take so much...she has been exressing herself to me over and over about how she has no feelings for me...and hasn't since last year. She has done a lot of damage to my family, who basically can't stand her. And of course her family thinks I'm nuts.

Oh yeah, it doesn't help when my job is in question...automotive industry is taking a huge beating right now. And we are in debt up to our eyeballs. I just feel soooooo sorry for my DD...she is only 2. She deserves far better treatment!...but I feel I do as well.

One more thing....WW thinks that by have her past (as she calls it) PA, that it justifies all of the stuff I had done to her ?!?!?!?!!!!.....that really bothers me.