I have been emailing this girl from work for around 9 months. We flirt with each other all the time. She touches me and smiles all the time. She said I was her best friend. I catch her looking at me sometimes. She has been asking personal questions like my birthday and other stuff. She always brings up flirtatious comments that I have made to her in the past like it has stuck with her in her mind. Her body langue is all there. What is strange is that she stopped emailing me for awhile like a month and out of the blue she shoots me an email on how much she misses me. So we start emailing each other again and the flirting gets heavier. We went out after work with a bunch of people last Friday and she is just so hot! I could not get close to her because of other people that were there. Right now she has not emailed me since Sat. I have seen her at work. It is like she is holding back for some reason. Like waiting for me to call or email. I kind of had the feeling that she was doing that so I haven't called or emailed her as well. She called me today via paging and asked a simple question about something. And I asked is that all she wanted and she said yes.
So we hung up. It was odd that she would page me for that. Do women play call waiting games like that or is she just not interested anymore. I have made advances to take it to the next level but she is not responsive. I really dig her but is she playing head games. Help ladies please explain her actions.

How long were you with your wife, (married and dating)?
How young were you when you got together with her?
Have you found a girl on your own, to date, since you have been divorced? (I mean, like not set up by friends, on the net, etc.)
How old are you?
How old is she?

I think these questions will help readers answer your questions. I know it would help me.

First gut response is that for the month you guys didnt "talk" she probably had started dating someone. They are done now.

Did she hang around you while you were out in a group?

I doubt this is really a game dude. Dating someone from work is risky business. It is someone you have to see all the time so one definitely doesn't want to be rejected, make the wrong move, etc. People definitely do not want to be talked about around the workplace either.

Honestly, it is 1 of 2 things. Either you are a complete dork and she is just being nice...or, you are money, shy, havent been in the game for a long time and she is waiting for you to make the first move. If the second is true, which I suspect it is, she is probably just as confused as you.

Good luck buddy!

P.S. I hooked up with my wife whenever I was a sophomore in college. We got divorced when I was almost 28. I was timid at first. Divorce kills ones self-esteem and selfconfidence...so being timid is understandable...plus, you just get out of practice...kinda like standing in the batter's box getting ready to jack a heater. You dont step in the box and catch up to an 80 mph bender without seeing a bunch, doing it day after day, succeeding and failing, right? Dating is the same. I would have never guessed it, but it is actually much easier than you would think.

I (personally) will not coach you on how to DATE A MARRIED WOMAN.

This is my last post to you because I find this repulsive.

And so married...

I agree with Lexxxy, you really should find a different board than Marriage Builders to get help in your efforts to score with a married woman. Eek <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

I apologize to anyone and everyone. I don't know how I missed it, but I had no idea this girl was married. I sincerely apologize again.

How are you going to feel about yourself when you break up a marriage? What if you end up with her? Are you going to respect a woman that cheated on her husband with you? Are you going to trust her? Is this the kind of person you want? CRAZY!

...sorry everyone...I had no idea... Please forgive me.

I agree with the previous posters. She is married. Find someone who is actually available.

Stop trying to figure out what she is thinking. And I suggest YOU start thinking with the head on your shoulders instead of the one in your pants.

kinger,

Go easy on yourself...LMG moved his post three times to get away from disclosing this woman is married.

Sounds wayward, doesn't it?

LA

From the 'Is this woman playing games' thread on After Divorce:



[color:"red"] Game-boy is a fast learner, isn't he? He knows all about being cheated on. So, he's helping some 'girl' cheat on her husband. Don't guess Game-boy has learned that real men don't do that. [/color]


[color:"red"] Helping her cope with her pain? That eye contact in a bar can do that for you - till the next morning! [/color]


[color:"red"] Imagine that....'sweet thing' has a husband playing head games with her. Looks like Game-boy is on her team. [/color]


[color:"red"] So, Game-boy is helping 'sweet thing' inflict pain on her husband. I guess he knows what it feels like so he is trying to help her do it well. [/color]


[color:"red"] Did she get 'road rash'? Yeah, I guess she was hurt so badly that she had time to go out and celebrate. And she is jealous already.[/color]

[color:"purple"] Game-boy here knows the woman is married and won't butt out of her marriage. I wonder if the people at work know that this 'sweet girl' is probably cheating on her husband. And that Game-boy is her 'partner in crime'. [/color]