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I finally come here with good news...
WW came to me on her own and has told me the affair is over and see wants to have that great marriage I have been saying we could have.
She has been openly repentant and very very remorseful for what she has done... At one point she said she was so sick to her stomach for what she has done... She can see now just how stupid she has been... She said a dozen times over how stupid could i be. She told me that she wants to be with me and never ever lie about anything. She said she wants to spend time together and asked if i would take places. She said she wants to be happy and in love with me.
She said that she was so blind and can't believe she let things get so bad and how could she have ever thought of losing me.
She also shown anger towards OM and anger at her self for letting this go on.
She was not angery with me at all.. She did not one time blame me for anything... She blames herself for letting this happen and feels used by OM.
She also agreed to a no contact plan and did agree to setting down and working out a "what if" plan for assuring safety of herself and our family.
We had a great time last night with some friends in public outdoors... Can you believe that one? Yes, locally in public out doors... She shown no signs of concern of where we were or anything... Both of us actually did not even think about [censored] or how horrible the last year has been.
Later at home last night she said...You know what? We had fun and i did not even think or feel bad... In fact I felt really good tonight and thank you so much for everything. I'm so glad you went with me tonight. I'm so lucky to have you... You saved me didn't you? You really saved me...
Gotta run...
Thanks everyone
Dazed
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Great
Now that the easy part is over on to recovery
Mr. Wondering
p.s.- I really am happy for you and as I told you before it really doesn't matter how it ends, only that it ends. Now recovery is where you finally get the chance to really restore and rebuild your marriage or NOT. She can not just sweep this under the rug...SHE has a lot of "villigers to own". But then again, don't they all.
p.p.s.- wow, you and MywifeIlove on the same day...I am finally at peace.
Last edited by MrWondering; 06/09/06 09:15 AM.
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Dazed.....I'm there with you brother!! God bless you!!! I guess yesterday was a day for WW's to get their heads out of their rear ends!!!
Just check my thread out!!!! Eerie!!
When all is recovered....in a few years....you'll be the legend her on these boards!!
Prayers as always!!!
MWIL
P.S. How's your wonderful daughter doing?????
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so good to hear that there is hope for the rest of us just starting this weird journey!!!
Blind
BS (me) 36
WS 36
no kids
together 17 yrs
not married
D day 4/1/06
He was out of the house 5/10-6/5
NC as of 7/2/06
my story
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This is the "feel good" SITREP of the year Dazed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I give it two snaps up in a circle <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />! Mrs. W <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Dear Dazed,
I have two words for you, "Praise God".
May the healing begin.
((Dazed))
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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Dazed,
After all the tears and pain you have been through and one of the best planA'S I have ever read you are now on the road to recovery.
I am very happy for you and pray for your family as the real work now starts. Its not going to be easy as you know. I don't have any words of wisdom for you as i never had and probably never will have the chance for recovery. But from all I have read it's not easy. There are going to be days of ups and downs.
Take it a day at a time Dazed and I know you will be a sucess story. Keep us updated and always remember come here to vent, cry and share your happy moments.
God Bless you Dazed for hanging in there......
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Great news and inspiring for the rest of us, (and inspiration is what I sorely need at this point).
Good luck with recovery.
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Dazed,
Great News!
Good on Ya!
"Never argue with idiots or WSs, They just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
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Great News Dazed!
We've been hoping for this for you for a long time!
WTF
*** Warning *** Make sure brain is engaged before shifting mouth out of Neutral.
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Textbook!
Great job.
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Dazed,
This is wonderful!!
Do you think your W would come here?
I wouldn't push it, but I think it would really help her...
((Dazed))
Me: FWW (34)
H: BS (35)
Together 12 years, no children (yet)
LTA: 3 years
D-Day: Sept. 13, 2005 (I confessed)
So blessed, thankful and happy for my wonderful H...
"God lives in the gathering of saints."
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So glad to hear this!!!!
Sounds wonderful and sincere!!!!
Now on to Plan A forever!
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Dazed,
I haven't been following your thread but just wanted to say how happy I am for you guys! That is great news!!
It is great to read a story like this on this forum!!!
You will be an inspiration to many people!!
Good luck with recovery!
--Sarah
BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
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Had to go eat BBQ without you last week buddy... Hope y'all had a good weekend... Please give us a weekend update...
Hugz, Thoughtz, & Prayerz
Bill
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Way to go, Dazed! Great news!
Me: 41, INFP
Her: 46, ESFJ
Married 6/95
B-G Twins
4 yrs recovered from serious neglect on my part.
So happy together!
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fantabulous! NOW is the time to initiate marriage therapy coz recovery is HARD really really H A R Dbut oh-so-worth-the-effort <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Pep
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DAZED.... I came on here by chance.... what a blessing to read this... WW came to me on her own and has told me the affair is over <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Dazed.... as I said before.. you are AMAZING!! GOD IS MOST AMAZING!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Well... all I can say is holster your sword WARRIOR... the war is over....now rebuilding and damage repair begins... YOU CAN DO THIS.....don't expect too much too soon....you know that...this is a journey not a destination.... GOD BLESS YOU MRS. DAZED....DD AND YOU DAZED.... GOOD LUCK AND PRAYERS FRANK
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cheers to you and remember...together not apart you can beat the affair monster....
hopefully this is the break we've prayed for.
welcome mrs. dazed here...no judgements..just some good help from folks who care.
nc is for life...make sure that is driven home. for life.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Dazed,
It's been a while. How are you doing?
xring
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