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Pepperband...Anyone - Exposure at work!
#1677545 06/09/06 09:26 AM
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I'm scared. My husband's EA is with a young girl at work.
The ugly part is she is the Pres. of the company's niece!
And...

My husband is the boss of his office. I do know his boss but (yes Y&R at it's best) he is also related to Pres and niece(OW).

I have exposed to OW and co-workers.

I am a sahm. W/o a lot of options. We are used to living a very comfortable life style. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Is exposure to higher up necessary?

I fear that NC won't be possible w/o it but WH already feels trapped by being sole provider.

He has had a series of 'inappropriate rel.' in the workplace.
Including 2 PA's that he admitted to 3 mos. ago.
In the past, I didn't expose at work and I am regretting it now. But in the past it wasn't this ugly or scary.
Do I have to decide now?

me BW - 32 WH- 32 Married 6/01 EA 10/01 turn PA 2/02 (denied for 4 years) ONS 5/02 DD 10/03 DD #2 3/05 D-Day Jan 06 EA #2 1/06 turned PA 5/06 ??? WH moved out 7/06 WH moved in w/OW 10/06 Divorce date 1/07
Re: Pepperband...Anyone - Exposure at work!
mcm137 #1677546 06/09/06 10:12 AM
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I would call her uncle and tell him NOW if you want to end the affair. Although it sounds like this affair is the least of your problems. This appears to be a way of life with him and if I were you, I would start looking for ways to support yourself in the future. I sure wouldn't depend on someone like him.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: Pepperband...Anyone - Exposure at work!
MelodyLane #1677547 06/09/06 10:30 AM
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I agree with what Melody said, you need to start finding ways to support yourself, or submit to a life that includes being part of a three person marriage for the rest of your life.

Serial cheaters don't change without help, and then, only some do.

In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.

Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
Re: Pepperband...Anyone - Exposure at work!
mcm137 #1677548 06/09/06 10:39 AM
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ditto - and when you call any of the higher ups and tell them the story, include the phrase "sexual harrassment."

This is a very real accusation that could be made against the company. Even IF the affair is consensual, a third party female employee can allege that sexual harrassment exists because "to get ahead in this company you have to sleep with the boss."

You don't have to explain it. Unless this company is being run by morons, they'll know what's at stake.

WAT
Re: Pepperband...Anyone - Exposure at work!
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Am I prepared for the results?

You are all so right.

2 beautiful perfect daughters
I like our lifestyle. Getting him fired will end my rel. with his family. I don't want to be in a marriage where I have to isolate myself from his family in the future.

I am just making excuses! And I hear myself doing this!
But I'm shaky and the pit of my stomache aches!
I'm scared.

me BW - 32 WH- 32 Married 6/01 EA 10/01 turn PA 2/02 (denied for 4 years) ONS 5/02 DD 10/03 DD #2 3/05 D-Day Jan 06 EA #2 1/06 turned PA 5/06 ??? WH moved out 7/06 WH moved in w/OW 10/06 Divorce date 1/07
Re: Pepperband...Anyone - Exposure at work!
mcm137 #1677550 06/09/06 12:29 PM
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P.S. He has agreed to MC to appease our families.
But he's not really 'there'. Still denial, deny n lie.
I can predict it'll be a finger pointing session.

me BW - 32 WH- 32 Married 6/01 EA 10/01 turn PA 2/02 (denied for 4 years) ONS 5/02 DD 10/03 DD #2 3/05 D-Day Jan 06 EA #2 1/06 turned PA 5/06 ??? WH moved out 7/06 WH moved in w/OW 10/06 Divorce date 1/07

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