I am new to this site though have been struggling for some time.

my WH got caught by me last year after I found lots of texts and lots of calls to one # on his cell phone bill. He swore up and down they were just friends though promised no contact with OW. We went through a rough time but I got past, believing it was really over (though never just believing it was an EA).

Two weeks ago, I caught him again. He was spotted in the town she lives in(no other rason for him to be there). I confronted him and he came up with the story that ran into each other and just went to lunch to talk. He claims they haven't talked since last year before that.

We have since started to go to MC. He claims to love me and want be with me only. I know he loves our 2 young kids.

Problems: 1) I want to believe him but don't deep down
2) what does it mean if it really is over now but he never comes clean and continues to deny the past
3) I know he hasn't seen her since (i am like a watchdog) but how do I know they are not in contact when he is at work?
4) what if he is still speaking to her - what does that mean?

He seems sincere when he cries that he wants us to work. I just don't know what to believe anymore.

I am sorry for this ramble but just don't know how else to get it out...

Hi there! Sorry you have to be here, but you have come to a good place.

First of all, you should read everything on this site that you can.

Second, insist that he send her a "no contact letter" -- you look at it and approve it, and make sure that it is sent.

Then, you continue with counseling and begin to rebuild the trust. It takes time, but it is possible.

Good luck!