So, H is working tonight, and suposedly OW is NOT working because H is ...

Well, kids are in bed, and we needed milk for in the morning (I'm sure the two gallons we have in the fridge won't be enough), so I went to get some milk.

At the grocery store CLLLLEEEEAAAARRRR on the other side of town. Got just a little sidetracked on the way there...

It was my excuse to drive by OW's office and her house to see if she really was or wasn't working. She was at home.

I got home, decided that the kitchen drain was running a little too slow, and there's a shift that starts at 11, so I made the whole silly circuit all over again.

All this even though I have access to the phone recordings and any calls from him into her offices. So I would have known tomorrow if she truly was not working tonight....

Not sure why I do this to myself. Why do I worry or care about her?? I sincerely doubt she's ever driven by here in the middle of the night to see if *I'm* home.

You do this because you have everything to lose and she has everything to gain. She's the predator, and you are a victim trying to protect your family. It sucks, but I felt the same way.

At some point I realized that NC and my wife leaving work was non negotiable for me. She would have to do both or I was gone. I knew it in my heart. I realized I'd always be worried of suspicious if they worked in the same University.

I made my stand and won an unconditional victory. She had to beg me for me to stay. It was a big change from the woman that walked all over me for months.

I dont think you'll feel safe until you get him out of that job. Of course the key is to get him to want to be with your and his family, not her... thus, plan A.

Plan B is where the true power is. Is it near time for you to do that? Perhaps. Not sure. But it may one day be the slap of reality that your WH needs.