I now understand my daughter's lack of support towards me while my cheating hubby was doing his thing.

Recap, she was engaged to be married in 3 months. Two weeks ago they called off the wedding, citing the need for space etc. She told me he was out with his ex-girlfriend. I called him a dog. Little did I know. I stopped at her place yesterday, only to find her with another guy and yep they were in the middle of doing the deed. I was sick. I told her she's just like her father and I left. I then called her father and told him. He was upset and immediately called her. She lied to him, he believed her and they both act as though I'm crazy.

I "thanked" him for setting such an example for my kids and making them think it's ok to cheat and lie. The entire thing sickens me and I can't even bear to talk to her. And to think, I was feeling sorry for her. I'm an idiot.

And so the cycle continues . . .

I hope you inform the man she was engaged to be married with what you observed. He has a right to know.

Here's how I see it: THANK GOD they called off the wedding.

Remember that SHE ALONE is responsible for HER choices. I know the Bible talks about the sins of the father being passed down, but I think the cycle can be broken by a child who refuses to let the sins of the past determine their choices in the present.

I'm sorry your daughter hasn't been supportive of you and that she made bad choices and has aligned with her father in this way. I can only imagine the hurt you must feel.

((((Iamsolost))))

Also, I hope that she realizes the pain she's caused you (as well as herself and her finance) and works to heal your broken relationship. Children need mom and it would be a tragedy if this causes a permanent break for you and her.

I'm sorry for the recent discovery, ISL. Seems you're surrounded by infidelity on all sides.

The more I live, and the more I read here, I think we here on MB are definitely the minority. And that makes me very sad.

Yes Bryan, he should be told. But in case you missed it, her fiancee was also cheating.

Don't misunderstand me, both are cheaters, just thought you missed where he was also betraying his soon-to-be-wife.

Thanks for the replies everyone. I am still reeling from all of this. My hubby stopped to pick up my youngest yesterday and since I am in Plan B I usually don't interact with him but I did regarding this. His answer is "she should do whatever makes her happy".

The whole thing disgusts me and honestly breaks my heart. I feel like no one thinks marriage is sacred any more. Yes, Resilient, we are in the minority in this world and it's beyond sad. I can't seem to get out of this low I've sunken into.

My daughter called me yesterday and the lies she spouts remind me of the same one her father told so many months ago. I can't handle this.

Don't give up on her.

She's young and impressionable.

This attitude may persist until she has to deal with heartbreak or infidelity from the opposite direction.

WAT

I'll never give up on her. She's my child and I love her unconditionally but right now I just don't like her very much.

Her then fiancee did cheat but her method of dealing was to turn around and do the same thing.

I sincerely need a vacation