I WILL BE BACK OFTEN , YOUR ALL GREAT PEOPLE AND I NEED YOU EVERY ONE . THANKS

FEELING OK, LITTLE LOST ,BUT I HAVE A GOAL, I WILL MEET IT , STILL LOVE HER ,BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS NOW AND I WILL MOVE ALONG SLOWLY BUT SURELY,

GOING TO BED NOW , THANKS AND GOODNIGHT TO ALL

(((((((((((((oddmanout))))))))))))) Good Night.

I AM TRYING TO COME BACK AND REMAIN ON THE BOARD, SO MUCH MORE HAS HAPPENED , I CONTINUE TO NOT BE AT THE HOUSE , W HAS THREATENED TO KILL ME , SHE HAS CONTINUED TO DRINK HEAVILY, POSSIBLE DRUGS, AND MORE THAN LIKELY AFFAIR. I DO HAVE SOME PROOF OF THIS , BUT CANT ADDRESS ,NOT GOING TO GET INTO SITUATION WHERE SOMEONE COULD GET HURT, {HER OR ME]
SHE STILL WILL NOT COMMUNICATE EXCEPT TO THREATEN . HAS NOT SAID THE WORD DIVORCE, DENIES ALL THINGS ,NOW HAS MYSELF AND APTEVVA SEEING EACH OTHER, I KNOW I NEED TO BE THERE,AT LEAST CLOSE, BUT THERE WILL BE TROUBLE IF I AM AND ARE SEEN BY HER, I KNOW HER , I DONT KNOW NOW HOW TO PROCEED, SINCE SHE WILL NOT TALK , HAS REALLY TOLD SOME LIES ABOUT ME , ALIENATED THE 2 DAUGHTERS BUT EMBRACED THE 2 BOYS , BUT NOT REALLY TAKING CARE OF THE YOUNGER ONE , HE HAS THINGS HE NEEDS AND I CANT GET THEM TO HIM BECAYSE OF HER, MONEY ,SHE SPENDS, MAIL ,SENDS BACK, UNOPENED, EMAIL, NOTHING, PHONE ,HANG UP. I STILL DONT KNOW WHAT IM DEALING WITH HERE, DOES ANYONE OUT THERE ???

Oddmanout, as I read your story I am sorry. just take care of yourself and your kids as best as you can. And please dont type in caps.

sorry, and i will,

I CONTINUE TO NOT BE AT THE HOUSE , W HAS THREATENED TO KILL ME

[color:"blue"] well then, I guess not being at the house is a good thing [/color]

SHE HAS CONTINUED TO DRINK HEAVILY, POSSIBLE DRUGS

[color:"blue"]she is completely spinning out of control & is headed for the bottom ... stand aside & do not hang onto her as she falls or you will both go down [/color]


AND MORE THAN LIKELY AFFAIR



[color:"blue"]like I said .... headed for the bottom [/color]


I DO HAVE SOME PROOF OF THIS


[color:"blue"] really ... if she is threatening bodily harm, doing drugs & drinking ... she is not ready <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> to be a good wife

agree? [/color]

NOT GOING TO GET INTO SITUATION WHERE SOMEONE COULD GET HURT, {HER OR ME]

[color:"blue"]she IS hurting

but she is toxic

stay away from toxic [/color]

SHE STILL WILL NOT COMMUNICATE EXCEPT TO THREATEN

[color:"blue"] her threats are a warning to you

"Stay away from me ... I am TOXIC" [/color]

HAS NOT SAID THE WORD DIVORCE



[color:"blue"]who cares what a drunken drugged out toxic person says?

NONE of her words have any meaning that actually pertain to you ... she is sick

do you understand that?

she is very very sick

and she is taking her poison willingly [/color]


DENIES ALL THINGS

[color:"blue"] intoxicated persons deny reality

nothing new here

they cannot even see themselves in the mirror ... much less determin what is real & what is not

she is sick

soul sick as well as physically sick [/color]

I DONT KNOW NOW HOW TO PROCEED, SINCE SHE WILL NOT TALK

[color:"blue"] file for a separation ... you need to distance yourself

she cannot be anything but a falling star at this time

you cannot ask her to be human ...
she is sick [/color]



HAS REALLY TOLD SOME LIES ABOUT ME , ALIENATED THE 2 DAUGHTERS BUT EMBRACED THE 2 BOYS

[color:"blue"]get some help for yourself ... legal help & spiritual help & common-sense help in the day-to-day how to survive this toxic woman [/color]

BUT NOT REALLY TAKING CARE OF THE YOUNGER ONE , HE HAS THINGS HE NEEDS AND I CANT GET THEM TO HIM BECAYSE OF HER

[color:"blue"]call child protective services and ask for their help

tell them everything about this situation

you cannot rescue your sick toxic wife
but you MUST attempt to rescue the children

call today [/color]


MONEY ,SHE SPENDS


[color:"blue"]does she have a job?

how is she getting money? [/color]

MAIL ,SENDS BACK, UNOPENED, EMAIL, NOTHING, PHONE ,HANG UP. I STILL DONT KNOW WHAT IM DEALING WITH HERE, DOES ANYONE OUT THERE ???

[color:"blue"]she is sick

save the kids

the marriage cannot be saved until your wife becomes human again

sorry....

Pep [/color]

i hear you, but i still want to try and save this , knowing she is not human is what drives me to know the truth and work it out . could have been me and i dont even know it , or what i may or may not have done ,right or wrong . i am not that afraid of her,but of myself

Why are you affraid of yourself oddmanout? explain.

This is a false sense of control! YOU cannot save her. SHE has to do that.

Save your children.

afraid of what i might do if i lose control , and i know i cant save her , only she can , its pretty tough situation

Yes, you can get through this, it may not turn out as you hope it will, BUT you will get through this and be the wiser.

yes,indeed, i am already the wiser for this, and it will not turn out like i would like , but i am still a survivor in the arena of life , so ill be ok, still get depressed and think i want to hurt back ,but i control this and it is getting less, going to get all i can on all the people involved in this and then we shall see ,what can be done to expose all i know .still no contact on her part , but thats ok to, thats her loss, not mine, only thing is i havent talked to kid, hes still mad to i guess, and so called daughter in law, [haha] is still talking with smart little remarks, but she dont matter any more than [excuse please] fart in the wind. ill continue to ask for guidance ,and be aroud as much as possible , great folks here even if the situitions arent.