I understand that my W doesnt love me the way she used to so I know she doesnt have to say I love you. The problem I am having is when I say it to her she usually replys the same but its obvious in her voice she doesnt mean it and doesnt want to say it half of the time. And I have tried saying in ways that she wouldnt have to reply. I want her to understand that she doesnt have to until hopefully one day she wants to and means it. I also want her to understand that I want to continue saying it and that I mean it. The last couple of days neither one of us has said it and it seems a little easier for her but its killing me to not say it and keep letting her know that I do. Can I let her know this somehow? I have a problem with guessing what she thinks and not knowing for shure. I went to her work last night and asked her out on a date (1st date since arrise of problems). She kept beating around the bush and saying she would have to check her schedule. She was doing it in fun but it was getting on my nerves. I loafed around for 1/2 hour and still no answer. I finally told her "I guess Ill go home instead of wasting time here" (wrong thing to say I know). She said "what do you mean" and I replied "I had come here to ask her on a date seriously and thought I would get a simple yes or no, whichever answer didnt matter, but I was serious". She replied it would be fine.So I suppose we have a date, but I had to say something like that to get her to understand. I have stopped all communication about our problems since she wont communicate, and I usually say the wrong things. Should I try more communicatin or wait till things are a little better. Sorry this is long, having a bad day, guess I am venting a little also. Thanks for any advice.