I know this isn't where I should post but I don't know what else to do, this is where I have poured my heart out most of the time.....He is going to stay with his parents, he wants to seperate...I am a mess, what about my poor little babies, they aren't going to understand this....

You poor dear....no they won't understand this, and he should be the one to explain it. What happened? Weren't you all on the road of recovery?

LA, What is happening? Talk to us girly.

Thinking of you.

I hope things are a little better for you. Maybe the seperation will be good for both of you. Maybe it will give you guys( dh especially) time to evaluate your relationship , your wants, desires and limits. God can make a way out of no way so hold fast ok. We're here for your. Your children are fine. I agree with crazy that your h should be the one to tell them since this is his decision.

Okay, so its been a while since I responded, sorry about that, My husband has been staying with his parents, but this past weekend came home and stayed on the couch, so he wouldn't confuse the kids with him not being there on the mornings that he usually is home. Anyway, for the most part it sucks, he says he just doesn't feel it anymore, that he feels lost, and that he doesn't want to hurt me. That he does love me, but isn't inlove anymore, and that I am an awesome mom, that sometimes he just doesn't want to be with me anymore in this marriage but knows he doesn't want to live anywhere else. How long am I suppose to go on like this, in limbo? How can I show him how happy I can make him withougt being pushy? I admit I have been far from a good wife, I am sure I never met his needs, but i didn't know I wasn't meeting them and I thought that the last few months have been good. I am just so confused I don't know what to do. I am so lost. Any advice?

I am really sorry to hear that, my heart breaks for you and what you must be going thru.

I was reading some of your posts trying to get a feel for your story and saw that some of your recent ones you mentioned that the phone calls to OW were really high. Is part of the prob that made your hubby leave?

Hope with him stepping back that it will make him think clearly and realize what he needs to do with getting the marriage on the right track. And it will give you time to work out your feelings on everything and to decide if you can move forward.

There is nothing wrong with being a little pushy, (just try to find the line of clingy) you have every right to fight for your husband and marriage. Use this time to grow strong and found out what will make you happy.