I'm terrified about the prospects about tomorrow's appt with our marriage counselor.

I discovered the A in early April and WH moved out at the end of April. WH started sleeping in the other bedroom in mid-March. I had no idea that he was having an A. When I looked him in the eyes and asked it was OW, he said no. He just said he felt guilty sleeping in the same bed as me. I should have known!

WH refused to tell me who the OW was until I found a love letter in his work bag. I tracked our cell phone bill and found credit card charges for hotel rooms. Yuck. All the details made me sick yet I still wanted to reconcile. He said he wanted to the "easy way out" by wanting me to kick him out. I couldn't do that because I loved him too much.

Since he moved out, we've continued to go church, the gym and had regular phone dates. We have occasional dinners and lunches together. Sometimes his words don't match his actions.

OW is his co-worker and WH even told me not to tell his boss because he can get terminated for this. It's in his employment contract! Too bad, he didn't think about this before he slept with her!!! It's so tempting to get him fired but I don't want to piss him off. What an idiot!!!

We've met with our pastor but that was ineffective.

WH used to be a strong Christian, very active in church and community. Now, he won't even return phone calls from our Christian friends. Sin has consumed him.

He has been visiting with a male therapist about his "issues" but he claims the therapist hasn't talked about the affair nor the divorce. What do they talk about?

Two weeks ago, he said he wanted to file for D. He asked me when he should file. What?!!! I told him I couldn't answer that question right then.

I tried Plan A which didn't work. Last Saturday, I was at a concert with some girlfriends and in the middle of the show, I turned around and guess who I saw? My WH with his arm around the OW! I climbed over 5 rows of seats and confronted him. I even reached out my hand (in sarcasm) to introduce myself to OW as WH's wife. WH stood in between me and the tramp and said he'd call me tomorrow. Before I even got back to my seat, WH had shamefully run off.

WH called me yesterday but I refused to pick up. I won't be talking to him until we meet tomorrow at our marriage therapist's office. I just can't talk to him without a mediator present.

WH says he's sorry about what is happening but refuses to end the A. Where are his Christian values? No one knows about the affair besides our pastors and some Christian friends, however, WH has been unreceptive to all of us. HELP!!!

Is Plan B too late at this point?

Any input would be appreciated,
BW: me, 29;
WH: 31;
M: 2 years;
Together: 5.5 yrs.

I am the one confused here. Have you read the articles on this site? Hello? You haven't plan A'd yet. How can you plan B?

Read the articles. Get the book, Surviving an Affair and read it. Then do what it says.\

Be loving, be kind, be friendly, be happy.
EXPOSE to everyone! Is she (OW married)? Have you told his parents, his brothers, his sisters?

Tell his boss! The consequences of his actions are his to bear. Not yours. Will he be angry? You're darn right he will. He can find another job.

You must be firm and yet friendly. Read the articles. Read the book. And then continue posting here so you can fine tune it. But read first.

Agree with Starz. Expose his [censored] at work, get him fired. This is a war.